DS being picked on?

[adrianna22]

Hi

DS, 4, has a severe language delay and ASD.

Prior two weeks ago, the nursery staff reported that and have witnessed that DS does not want to be involved in his age-group class anymore, not wanting to be around them etc.

Obviously this has changed now and DS is happy, but at the time I did find this odd as DS does not really present this type go behaviour where he has additional outside classes with kids. So the nursery and I put this down to his one of his new ASD traits.

Well today, I received a phone call from DS's friends mum, as her child and DS are very close friends and always playing together. Well she told me that her child told her that kids, from DS class, have been pushing my DS and teasing him and has been going on for a while, but her child told her about it today as her DS pushed a kid today as that kid pushed DS.

Now, I am fuming and worried, as this may be the cause of why DS may been acting off at nursery. I know her child would not lie.

I am thinking of talking to the nursery when DS goes and asking the nursery if they have witnessed anything and to put things in place.

I did talk to another friend about this, but she advised me that I should leave it, as kids will be kids.

But, knowing DS, and his needs, I'm worried that this may have an effect on him i.e. not wanting to communicate etc.

So what shall I do?

Absolutely you should talk to the nursery about it! You need to be your DS's advocate because he can't do it himself.

Sod kids being kids - it's really not okay for NT kids to bully any children but particularly children with SN

Sorry, I'm sure you are your son's advocate - your friend's attitude has made me cross

I'd speak to the nursery, ask to see their bullying policy and ask what steps they're going to take to stop this happening in future. Basically kick arse

Thanks oddfood

I will be talking to the nursery about it- I think may friends thought it was ok, as in her words, four year olds don't know what they are doing. But I can definitely remember being bullied at four and the kids meant it.

But yes I will be talking to the nursery nether less.