What do i do???

[hattytheherald]

Hi
My son recently started at an indie specialist school which has been fantastic. I have read on a group that a parent from his last school will be looking at the placement.

The problem is that the last school had a blame culture and the parent in question made a lot of complaints against my child, whilst sucking up to the centre staff. I have copies of her emails that name my son for all her child's problems. Obviously this school is now unable to meet her child's needs and she is looking elsewhere. I have no issues with her child but am scared for my son to be a targeted again by her for any issues that arise. All the issues between the two children were a mixture of inexperienced staff with little training and both the children's difficulties.

I have sat here tonight reading through her emails and the replies from the head, along with all the other sh** from the school and have just cried. I have fought to get my son into this school and it is going really well. The staff are great , they look at the difficulty and work out the best way forward without blaming the child. He has such a chance here and am scared that everything will break down if this other child goes to the school. We already have one child from the previous school that was failed by them and there are some difficulties but we know this and work together, not against if that makes sense.

I personally would never victimise a child, especially one with sn. There have been times my son has explained his worries about other children but we talk it through, a learning curve on tolerance.

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I think speaking to the school and filling them in on the background and e-mails is a very good idea. What a horrible situation.

Hopefully if the new school are much better at managing situations without blaming then you have every reason to believe they will carry on doing so regardless of whether this child attends or not.

Agree with other two posters. I would definitely have a meeting with your present school and make sure they are fully aware of the history.

I do not see how she can blame your child anyway - by the sounds of it things didn't miraculously improve when your child moved on or she wouldn't be seeking a specialist placement!

"I do not see how she can blame your child anyway - by the sounds of it things didn't miraculously improve when your child moved on or she wouldn't be seeking a specialist placement!"

Very true.

Thanks for the replies. I will phone school in the morning to try and arrange a meeting. I just don't want to be seen as a parent that holds a grudge or that I'm causing problems. I'm sure they will handle it well.

The lady not only complained to the school, but to her social worker, her case officer and the lead case officer for her area and also her son's doctor. Some of the emails mention that her child made a beeline for mine repeatedly.

And yes of course the situation didn't improve but it wouldn't as the staff cannot cope with the children and exclusions are the way they deal with all the behaviour. In the first two weeks of the winter term, four pupils were excluded, all statemented in a unit!

It's bringing back all the stress just looking at the file so am now going to do some housework instead of getting myself in a state.

Thanks again for your replies

Meant to add - Poltergoose I am sorry that you also went through a similar thing. I don't understand how people can be so cruel to children but you would think a parent with a child with sn would understand a bit more.

Thanks again