I've posted on this subject before. I feel out of my depth with my DS.
My DS is nine. He's my only DS. I have a dd aged 5. I have a loving DH but he works long hours and has a difficult relationship with DS. My own mum died some years ago and my dad is severely disabled. DHs parents choose not to get involved with my DCs so I am pretty much alone. I know I'm struggling and I'm on anti depressants myself.
To cut a long story short, DS has high functioning ASD. He's in mainstream with 20 hours 1:1 support. He's presently in year 4. He has no learning difficulties and is a bright loving boy. I love him dearly. The school he goes to is high achieving and I've long had the impression that he's really just tolerated there. He never gets any certificates, the classes are mixed every year and he's been split from the few friends he's has. He's now completely isolated. He's timed to get changed to and from PE, any longer than five minutes and his name goes on the board, ultimately losing some golden time. Last week he had a major meltdown over homework - writing a newspaper article and making a game from modelling clay - his anxiety levels went though the roof so the homework didn't get done, just couldn't put him through it.
I've been into school more times than I care to remember - their attitude is - it's him, his fault etc they won't bend, I've pleaded with them not split him for his friends but it's just - 'I'm not changing it, he'll thrive' he didn't thrive, within three weeks he had punched another child repeatedly in the head due to teasing. This morning was the final straw, floods of tears as there is some fundraising activities going on this week and he didn't know what he was doing, he was in bits. Just so sick of it all. I've thought of moving him but there's no spaces elsewhere. I've moved my dd out of the school as she hated it.
Trouble is, I know that depression can affect my judgement and I'm also not very confident. I hate seeing him so upset but I don't what to do to help. At home he's fine, there's no pressure, he is what he is and we love and accept him, the issues are mainly related to school :(
Any ideas ?