Any advice welcome - I'm at breaking point.
My DS is nine and has high functioning ASD. He's statemented, 20 hrs support a week in ms school. The school is supposed to be inclusive but basically it's not. DS is expected to fit in etc very inflexible and uncompromising to the extent that I have removed my dd aged 5 from there completely. I can't take DS out though as there's no space in other local schools and so we're stuck there for the next two years.
The amount of homework he gets is huge - for example he was expected to make a roman board game from modelling clay over half term (is that normal?) - when he read that he had a massive meltdown and was practically foaming at the mouth :( he is timed getting changed to and from PE - any longer than five minutes and his name 'goes on the board'. The classes are mixed up at the end of every year, there are only two classes and he has constantly been split from the few friends he has - now he's completely isolated. Obviously I've been in to complain several times but the answer is always the same - it's him, not us, we're never wrong. Like banging my head up against a brick wall.
I've thought about getting him some medication for his anxiety as it's so extreme - is it worth pursuing that? He's a very loving boy but very lonely. He's bright and kind but I can see he's struggling and it's mainly linked to school who won't bend. I don't know what to do - DH works long hours and finds DS hard to handle so their relationship isn't strong. I have absolutely no other support - his grandparents just don't get him, my own mum died some years ago, I'm on antidepressants myself as I'm struggling to cope ......