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Just having a bit of a panic about ds starting school in Sept....

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hazeyjane · 24/05/2014 08:32

Ds is 4 in July, his statement is nearly sorted, he has a place at a specialist learning unit for complex needs in the ms infants at the end of our road. It is a lovely school, the unit is great, there is a small intake (4 children this year), it is next to the preschool he attends, and they are starting to take him down there to get him used to it, and introduce him to staff etc. He will be going with his friend, the son of my closest friend, and he will know most of the children in year R ( they spend some time in MS with 1-1) - it is all good.

So why am I having a sudden headspin about sending him in September? I know we would have a pretty good chance of delaying entry and sending him in to reception in 2015, and I have thought and thought about this, and we came to the decision that sending him in September is the right thing to do.

He has made huge progress over the last year, and is getting on so well at preschool, which partly makes it seem like the right time for him to move forward with the other children, but also makes me feel like he could stay there for a bit longer.

I think a lot of it is to do with how wonderful his 1-1 at preschool is, he is very attached to her and I know it will be very hard for him to move away from her. She is great, but now every time I pick ds up she says how young we send our children to school in this country, and how much she will miss ds, which makes me doubt our decision every time.

I am just having a massive panic, and could do with some honks or someone to tell me it will all be alrightConfused!

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PolterGoose · 24/05/2014 08:40

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autumnsmum · 24/05/2014 08:49

Oh hazey honks it's hard isn't it

Ineedmorepatience · 24/05/2014 09:55

Are the preschool able to access the same level of support as the school hazey?
I work in Early years and am currently in a one to one role. We find it very difficult to get Proffs in to support our children with additional needs. Although it does seem to depend on whether the child has a TAC.

Make sure the your Ds is going to get the same level of support if he stays at preschool.

And also speaking as a one to on it is very easy to become attached to our children but we must consider what is best for the child when it is time to move on. We keep some of our children for 2 school years and some for 1, it has to be the right move for them not for us.

Sorry you are having to choose, it is so hard, I am sure you will make the right decision.

Good luck Smile

Ineedmorepatience · 24/05/2014 09:56

Meant to say honking and flapping for you Smile

hazeyjane · 24/05/2014 10:20

Thankyou.

Thanks, Ineed, that is a good point about the level of support. The preschool are great, and his 1-1 does a speech and language programme with him, but it is limited and I worry as younger ones are coming in (2 and half year olds) a lot of time is spent comforting them, and the atmosphere is a lot more chaotic.

His 1-1 is a friend outside of school, so I hope we will see a lot of her anyway.

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Ineedmorepatience · 24/05/2014 10:40

Yes I forgot about the new intake, we take 2 yr olds!! How could I forget them Grin

Of course some of the children we have had with additional needs have benefitted hugely from the extra yr and have moved forward really nicely.

SLT is the biggest issue for us because we just havent had the training and the SALTs just arent supporting us.

Glad you will still see his one to one, I am part one to oneing a friends Dd at the moment and it is brilliant. Smile

Firsttimer7259 · 24/05/2014 21:13

Hi hazey, I'm glad you got a school place you're happy with. From your post I wondered whether its just losing the 1 to 1 person that's giving you the heebies? I remember your ds really struggled to settle with new people back in the days of our hand holding thread. Is it mainly that you're worried about? Or is there something specific about the placement this not suitable? If its that perhaps its an idea talking to your ed psych about whether another year will help with stranger anxiety type things or just postpone the eventual separation? Or perhaps think about whether he's now so much more able to settle into a new environment that it won't be so hard this time round?

autumnsmum · 26/05/2014 07:11

Hazey I remember this time last year we were worrying if we were doing the right thing moving dd2 from her pre school to sp sch nursery and I'm so glad we made the move

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