Somebody please talk me down

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Ds has gone from bad to worse & I don't know what to do anymore .
I'm at the point where I just want to hand him to social services as I just can't take anymore at all

He had an accident before school today (fell and banged his head) apart from the bump he is fine but I kept him off school anyways just incase.
He didn't sleep last night at all & managed an hours nap mid morning.
He can't/won't swallow his Melatonin (3 ×2mg daily) so he isn't sleeping altogether anymore,Gave him some piriton I know I shouldn't have but I was desperate & even that didn't work .
His GP says their is no other form of Melatonin available so he is stuck with the tablets .

I have been punched,bit,hit & he is persistently calling me names (fat bitch,fuck off etc) , I quit tidying up as he will be their two seconds later messing it up again , He has drawn all over the walls/doors with a felt pen & squashed his tea in to my carpet while laughing

I can't take another second , I have put him to bed even though he won't go to sleep and I'm just listening to him scream & trash his room .

I can't do this I can't cope and I don't think I have the will power to go any further with him .

whereabouts are you roughly? Kidz up north do really good exhibitions and the autism show are in MCR and London next month and tickets are very reasonable. They have excellent seminars and you might be able to get some good advice.

What are school doing to help?

Anne I'm North West on the Fylde Coast .

School aren't helpful at all tbh all they do is tell him to behave at school & home
They have seen & heard him on numerous occasions though it is everyday now that he hits me & swears at me when I take him too & from school .
He has for the most part been good at school as he has been their 3 years & it is a very set routine/timetable that they have so because of this he doesn't seem to blow up & have meltdowns at school , though he has now started misbehaving but this is the only past few weeks .
His Teacher just sees it as normal boys behaviour

There's an exhbition in MCR in June (the autism show) here there'll be loads of stalls and you'll be able to ask people for advice as to what to do bth at home and with regards to school. There are some one to one clinics you can book into as well.

I'll be reading this with interest as I also have similar problems with my 5yr old DS. I haven't got anything to add as I'm not as expert as the others here, but I have found that only going to activities that are aimed at families with SN kids has taken a lot of stress out of things.

I tried to integrate DS by sending him to a mainstream football club but after 10 mins he just couldn't do it and his behaviour seriously deteriorated. All the parents were looking at me (and I felt judging) but now we do SN activities, I feel like everyone has seen it all before and no one bats an eyelid. It's also helped me to see similar behaviours to my DS's in other kids. It's given me confidence to say "yes, he really does have autism".

Good luck, you sound like a lovely mum and it seems as though you are being really proactive. You've been dealt a rough hand with your paed, but don't give up.