Sport - football team

[sbm78]

Hi All, I wondered if any of you have had this issue and any advise would be helpful

My DS2 (YR3) who has behavioural issues at school and at home. Not managed to get him an actual diagnosis yet but I'm pretty sure he is on the ASD spectrum somewhere or even ADD.

Anyway, he loves football, talks about it and wants to play it all the time. He's been with a team since September. Now.... the coach understands that he doesn't listen sometimes and will often go off on a tangent and do his own thing when he is meant to be listening and joining in with the training session. The coach understands BUT there is a parent helper who really does not. He doesn't get why my DS won't join in or do as he's told. It resulted in an argument between coach and the parent on saturday. The coach was trying to explain but the parent helper doesn't see why my DS should get "special treatment".

My DS loves football and I don't want to stop him doing it. Does anyone have any advise?

Did you witness this argument, or have you been told about it? Have you spoken to the coach privately about the problem?

Perhaps look at the football club website and see if there is a child welfare officer or similar, they might be able to advise you, but I think it would probably be better if the coach spoke to them. They may have some sort of inclusion policy? I've just looked at the website of the team my Ds used to play for and they have an equal opportunities policy that states that discrimination will not be tolerated and that assistance will be given to members with disabilities.

I hope your DS carries on enjoying it. Mine gave up in the end, he was really out of his depth despite supportive coaching but he has switched to hockey and is thriving.