I hope it is okay to post here for advice; my son doesn't have special needs, but I think others here may have some strategies/suggestions to help with aspects of his behaviour.
He's 3.5. Was an easy baby, good sleeper/eater, communication strong, good socialiser. He's very bright, quite loud, has very little concentration span, doesn't seem to enjoy doing toy like stuff for very long, and goes from one thing to another.
He is also very strong willed. Quite challenging. And demanding. This, currently, manifests with an almost obsessive mantra for us to 'PLAY WITH ME!'. He does not seem to want to do anything on his own. It is excessive and very intense. The moment we try to do anything else, he will scream and shout, pull on us.
We play with him a lot but we also repeatedly try to set him up with things, then slip away, or tell him we'll be back, or set a timer - it results in a tantrum. If we ignore him and carry on going to do what we want to do, he will stop what he's doing and follow us.
Obviously we love him desperately, but it's a mind fuck. Very suffocating.
I don't really know what to do about it. It's almost obsessive.
Any suggestions? I had a look at The Spirited Child book that gets mentioned here a lot, but I wasn't sure he fitted a lot of the elements - he doesn't have issues with other kids or change or senses.