Hello, my 6yo DS2 keeps flying off the handle. He is very impulsive with language. When he is happy he is very lovely and affectionate and tells me he loves me, but the smallest thing makes him really cross like a switch has flicked.
He will be really rude and say how much he hates me, wishes he was in another family etc, and often hits and kicks. I am covered in bruises from where he has kicked me when I am restraining him (he might try to flee in a car park, for example, so I have to grab him). He is big and strong for his age, so it hurts me.
Naughty corner doesn't really work as he won't stay there. So I threaten to not give him today's pocket money if gets out (we give a small amount daily). That works for a bit. I always clearly explain what the consequences will be and check he has understood, but he usually gets down, so gets the consequence. Then it escalates because he says "I forgot". Cue more crying, rudeness and hitting.
He does this if I say no to something, or (like at the weekend) he accidentally hurts someone and he refuses to say sorry.
He is dx with TS and OCD tendencies. I don't know if this is to do with the TS, or something else entirely. His brother has ASD traits.
Any ides on why his fuse is so short and how I can avoid the rudeness and physical behaviour? He went through a really bad phase a few weeks ago where he was doing this 4-5 times a day, but now it is every other day or so.