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why is ds2 so naughty ?

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thriftychicken · 03/05/2014 16:16

He is just so bloody sneaky and i dont understand why he behaves the way he does when myself and dh are not complete pushovers , we stand our ground but still he thinks he can get away with things .

if ds2 wants something he will try any way around to get it .
he is 15 , i know teens can be a challenge and he has aspergers , but still , i dont get it.
a while ago he wanted to ride his bmx bike without the brake on because a few other lads were doing it. dh said he must not take his brake off , but of course he got some tools and did it when dh wasnt there . when i realised and told him he wasnt riding until it was back on it resulted in him going ballistic , smashing my house up and being aggressive , he even smashed his own ipod up. Eventually the brake went back on .

thursday night he told me he was going to the shed to to do some maintenance on it , he said he was pumping tyres up etc . i shouted through to him at one point to check he was ok and he was all 'yeah just making sure its all good to ride'

i have just looked at the bike (hes out at the moment fishing) and hes took the damn brakes off again , he must have rode it like that yesterday without me realising .
so , when dh finds out and we tell him it has to go back on and we are disapointed he has sneakily done it , all hell will break loose.

this is just one example of how it goes .

last weekend was hideous , i got shook around like a ragdoll as ds2 was going mad that he couldnt go fishing . he never seems to learn .

He lies , he tries to manipulate and control . he is bloody hard work . i didnt think these were features of AS but if not then what the hell have i done wrong ?
if i take the bike away for months , id bet he would do it again.

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thriftychicken · 03/05/2014 16:19

i know this sounds like a triviality but when he blows , he really blows and we can barely handle him now hes 15 . He gets mad that i dont trust him , but i cant trust him !

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PolterGoose · 03/05/2014 16:42

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thriftychicken · 03/05/2014 16:52

thankyou polter i'll have a look . the last time we actually compromised and agreed one brake . now it has no brakes again ! He rides it at the bmx track and its dangerous , theres been loads of bad accidents on there.
He watches the pro's on utube riding without brakes Hmm

i do my best to compromise , hear his side and look for an agreeable solution but ds will not give an inch and goes behind my back .
Confused

its hard when i just have to put my foot down for his own good and my word means nothing at all .

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thriftychicken · 03/05/2014 17:06

wow . lots to read there , thankyou . think i will make a Brew Smile

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PolterGoose · 03/05/2014 17:06

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thriftychicken · 03/05/2014 18:03

well , hes supposed to , but thats been an issue aswell . He takes it off when he gets round the corner i think .
He once fell off at a skate park , on a ramp and spent the night in hospital with concussion and that was WITH a helmet on . didnt put him off !

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