MrsF! Are you lurking?

[coppertop]

I was just wondering if you were okay at the moment. It seems like ages since you last posted and the Special Needs section isn't the same without you!

If you're lurking and reading this, let us know that you're okay.

Here i am! First time on here today!

Generally feeling p**d off!

Do you feel like having a rant? Or you could e-mail me if you'd prefer?

hard to word how i feel- yep! me lost for wordss.
Just feel i'm at the end of all my reserves of energy at the moment.(HERE GOES ME ACTUALLY USING THEIR NAMES/AGES)

Thomas/10yrs is wearing me down at the moment with the waythat he seems unable to respond in a nice way to anything i say- its constant "yeah whatever" or if i try to talk to him about his difficulties he makes silly remarks and pushes me aside. i know this is part of the 'social skills' he lacks - but sometimes i'd 'LOVE' to chat to him.
(sure that lots of NT kids are the samee- but this is on top of loads of other stuff)

Leigh(7) has had a better week at school- curiously since the paed has agreed to refer him for SALT- also have now got a different teacher to refer to with my concernss- so am being paaraanoid her- but i'm sure his own teacher is snubbing me (did i get her into trouble with all my letters!)

and Alex(4) is really p*ing me off as he is just so bl**dy naughty at the moment- i think it's cos of the attention he doesn't get due to the constant involvment i have with T & L....the pair of them have been bickering for days and Alex keeps complaining about the noise they make arguing

yesterday a major disagreement atrted when thomas said to Leigh "haven't you got a braainn"
Leigh screamedd that he had one- thomas accused leigh of taking it litterally(!!) and that it was just a figure of speach- i then tried to smooth it over by saying thomas was hinting that leigh was saying something silly- leigh then reacted to me!

At the moment i feel i have reached the end of my skills and feel that i need someone to 'professionally' instruct thomas on what the son of the author Mike stanton calls 'his social mode'...ie teach him to have a peronality that he can switch on and off to use when maaybe his little old mum fancies a chinwag!

it's times like this when i don't have any real major hurdless/hassles etc that i feel lousy- its as if when i have disasters to deal with i push on through as i feel so aangry etc and am driven by it- then when the pressure outside the home eases i feel overwhelmed at home

MrsF, you deserve some kind of medal for all the hard work that you put in with your boys and trying to get them the help they deserve.

The teacher wouldn't have got into trouble over your letters if she'd been doing her job properly in the first place. You wouldn't have had to go over her head (another phrase that conjures up all kinds of images if taken too literally!) if she had been giving the help that was needed and even listened to your concerns.

I think that even 3 NT boys would be a lot to deal with when they start bickering. Having 2 with AS and 1 NT must be a constant balancing act for you.

hope things get better soon, Mrs F

Happy Mothers Day, MrsF. You deserve a really good day.

Thanks!
My mental health s/worker was meant to be referring us to the Children &Families Team (social services) - however as no word from her or them for 4 weeks- i assume there's been an oversight somewhere (feel i'm just one big oversight at the moment)
So....have a number and name for an Educational Welfare officer which i will try- not sure what exactly she does- but when we had a course at school another Ed Welfare Officer and a social worker were the ones running it....so feel this is worth tryingg.

This morning Thomas reached the peak of his 'inappropriate remarks'
I asked him to 'take off all his clothes' -to get dressed
He sang back to me
'It's getting hot in here,
I'll take off my clothes-
and get sexy with my mum'

(hope you all remember the song in the charts a few years back!)
Now funny as it sounds this is about the level of the communication at the moment with him.

It's things like this that i am struggling with and NOONE seems able to help me.He is always talking about my 'private bits' and if i hug him he will remark about the fact that his face is touching my boobs.

Now i am posting this in all seriousness (NO!! Coppertop....none of your smut!!!) as it does bother me that at 10 he is saying all this!

I'm not sure what an Ed.Welfare Officer does either but it must be worth a try. I feel so angry on your behalf, MrsF. How many times do they expect you to ask/beg for help before they'll get up off their @rses and actually DO something to help???

fancy meeting you here....again!!! XXXX

I'm a secret stalker, MrsF!

The proof is over on WK's thread "Hate my DH".

it's nice to know you are there.XX

Awwww!

And it's nice to see you back on MN, MrsF. xx