Well first day of school arrived and we had a blast. Our boy surprised all the teachers as they did not know really what to expect and I was so very happy that they were very interested in what I had to tell them about behaviour interventions, ABA and our son's diet, etc.
Our boy coped well with the other children and made a great start. Mainstream obviously won't be for every child but for our little guy, i definitely made the right decision, so far, in the school i chose for him. The teachers were falling over themselves trying to accommodate his sensory needs and to learn from me.
We have had a year of ABA which we have no received funding for so we can continue at home. Our boy has a full time 1:1 who has some training but along with the Head, they are very eager to learn about what we do at home and to bring those successes into the school.
I am over the moon about this as I didnt expect so much help. I suppose it all depends on which school you choose and though its still early days, at least we had a good start.
Over the summer we visited a local "special school", the only one in our area which deals with children on the spectrum. All manner of children were in the class however, for lack of a better word. children with Downs, and unidentified behaviour and delay problems. There is no way our boy would have received a 1:1 there, as they claim they are "knowledgeable" already about ASD that they are specialists in the field.
By going to the mainstream school, I have noticed a willingness to learn that I did not notice at the special school where they seem to have knowledge "wrapped up" in a nice little package and were not as willing to listen to "me" the parent. They were telling "me" about autism. I have lived and breathed it for two years and young women were trying to tell me what "they" knew. Sorry but just because you have a year of experience and a bachelors degree in education, dosent mean you are qualified to work with my child. I am not bashing special schools here, but ours is dreadful and i wouldnt send my dog there. I felt there was very little hope of my son ever reaching mainstream if we went to our special school and there was no talk of "future" at a mainstream school either.
Thankfully our boy is now learning to talk and apart from sensory problems, he fits in with the class for the most part. He is smart, knows his letters and can use a computer. (He is 3) It all very much depends on the child at the end of the day. I wouldnt throw either type of school out with the bathwater but i dont believe we can make blanket statements that special schools are the "best" or the most efficacious cause we need to be looking at the child first and foremost.