Could you please not be autistic right now?

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I am having trouble with DS1's totally understandable lack of empathy.

Since January my mum has had a stroke and a fall both requiring hospital stays. She was discharged to my brothers but has now been readmitted having lost vision in one eye and sudden onset severe dementia.

The context makes no difference to DS1 referring to me as a 'fucking r**d'.

Can't he just be NT for a while?

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I'm sorry but I don't know how to tag posts.

Sorry if I am derailing the thread in anyway but I could have seriously written your post myself!

My son is 6 and has just been referred to dev paed.

I am very confused with it all and would appreciate any advice.

A pm is fine if more appropriate and sorry to anyone who I may have inadvertently offended.

Even before diagnosis I know what we/he is up against and already it's hard.

Any advice on how to get DS1 up north?

DH has done a PowerPoint presentation of the timeline for the whole of next week and we have booked a reward of a day at Alton Towers towards the end of the week. This seems to have provoked rage. atm he is refusing point blank because it is not fair to him. Sod everyone else as long as he is OK.

Any tips on getting him to 'norm it up', recognising other's needs or feelings etc? Failing that, am I allowed to drug him Mr T style?

Btw - when I submitted my views for SA to the LA I received an email saying it had been passed on to the Business Support Officer for actioning. Who? Quick google revealed this is a job title in the legal dept. For SA?

Total disaster so far.

atm I am going up on the train tomorrow and DH and the boys will follow on weds, Alton towers thurs, home on Friday.

DS1 clearly can't cope with 5 days so we will try 3 built around a reward (although he now claims to hate all theme parks)

We still have the option of driving up tonight when the DS are asleep or ditto early tomorrow morning.

I can't deal with both mum and DS1 being so demanding atm - I can't split myself in two

Only problem is that DS1 has now switched the focus from being forced to go to not being allowed to go. I have been here before. If I picked up the car keys and said 'ok, let's go' he would then meltdown because he would have switched the focus to being forced to go. I just want to go visit and support mum