Ds1 is 3, nearly 4. He is currently being assessed by the cdc. Paeds originally thought somewhere on the autistic spectrum, too young for ADHD. But now leaning towards the latter but with traits of ASD.
He is a gorgeous boy but so full of energy. He's like a constantly fizzing firework, but he can be so particular about things. He has to be first, he obsesses over his trains, he won't eat anything other than toast for breakfast, cheese sandwiches and cheesy puffs for lunch and dippers and waffles for tea at the moment. He's got worse since the holiday started as normally we can vary his tea within dippers or sausages with plenty of veg.
Normally he does 3 full days at preschool, moon, wed and fri. Mummy days are inbetween. Ds wants to be at preschool! He knows it's the holiday but every morning I have the 'is it a preschool day?' Followed by an tantrum that it's not, that daddy has gone to work, that he wants daddy, his socks are the wrong colour, he wants his pjs back on. You name it, it's wrong. And then We go on from there.
Ds takes up so much of our time, the other dc don't get a look in. And yet consequently ds doesn't get as much 1:1 time as he needs, as it's mostly working through the day on damage limitation. Stopping him from hitting/biting/kicking/licking/smashing me, his siblings, dh, grandparents. Thankfully he doesn't do it to the neighbourhood kids, but then he will lash out at us instead.
I can't give ds as much of me as he needs during the day. Right now he's curled up in our bed because ds2 has learnt to climb his cot so I've had to take the side off, and he roams all over inc ds1's bed. We don't have space to separate 4 dc out. It sucks that we own our own home, otherwise we'd be able to walk away from our cramped 2 bed house. But it is also the home where ds1 was born so it's special to us.