Moaning thread number 2 for today ! This one is a bit long, sorry.

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At Dd3's tribunal the LA rep told the panel that children with Asd in my LA are supported by the EP service. I doubted this as Dd3 had her diagnosis for over 2 years before she saw an EP.

Anyway one of the reason I wanted to meet the EP today (see my senco thread) was to ask her if this is in fact the truth.

So I phoned her and asked the question, "Are the EP's responsible for Asd children in our LA" to which she answered "yes". So I then asked her "Do the schools still have to call in your service" To which she answered "yes".

I then said "Do the schools only call in the EP's when they are having problems with the children with Asd?" To which she answered "yes"

So then I said "So actually the EP's arent really supporting the children with Asd until they fall apart, are they and it is still up to the schools to decide who will be seen and who wont?" Which of course she answered with "Well yes it is upto the schools and we dont know about all children with Asd and of course not all of them need to see an EP"

It gets better..

I then asked her if Dd3 will automatically transfer to the EP who is assigned to the secondary school when she moves and guess what... No she wont be automatically transferred, she will need to be referred to the new EP by the school!!

So the either the LA rep was lying or the EP service arent doing their jobs properly. Either way no one is responsible for supporting the children with Asd in mainstream schools in my LA

Not a great day

Hmm, it is polite to pretend to be happy to friends and visitors, but not to parents or those in loco parentis.

Goodness Lougle Your poor dd.

zzzzz thanks for this Why can't people just help or fuck off?, it made me smile for the first time today! I would so like to actually say that to one or two people.

Lougle I really feel for your Dd and for you. It will get easier as she gets older and you learn what she can cope with and what she can't. It is very hard to read them though, Dd3 is the same and finding out what is actually upsetting her is like pulling teeth as she can't explain her self alot of the time.

Be kind to yourself

Hiya Lougle

It does get better. DS is (now, finally, when he's getting towards secondary age) emotionally ready for primary school. It helps that (now, finally, etc etc) they accept his diagnosis, give him more help, the teacher this year 'gets' him. But it's mainly that he's now mature enough to be there

Looking back, perhaps I should've saved us both the agony of sending him in for R-Y4. But I wasn't brave enough

Polter, I reckon those employment stats will improve, though. The current recognised adult cohort were 'more severe' globally than the dc who are diagnosed now

Think about it, all the quirky adults still chasing for a proper assessment cos 'naughty', 'odd' or 'brainy' was considered enough to categorise people back then. And parents didn't have t'interweb so were not as much help as they could have been. Imagine having to rely only on what carrots said.

'Imagine having to rely only on what carrots said.'

Yep. My mother's generation. Finds it very odd that I would ever 'disagree' with a professional. In them days you just did as you were told and 'accepted' stuff.