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I am going to lose the plot with the SENCO at Dd3's school!!

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Ineedmorepatience · 10/04/2014 17:31

We had generally got on well and i have always respected her but just lately she is winding me up and today I could have lost it with her, had she been around at the time she had arranged to meet me!!

The slippery slope started in October when she suggested to me that I put in a parental request for a SA. I did and the LA contacted her, she immediately denied have suggested SA for Dd3 and told the LA that Dd3 doesnt need a statement.

Since then she has cancelled meetings, told lies, faked IEP review sheets, put incorrect information on a form that the LA requested.

Fast forward to today when we were supposed to be meeting with her, the specialist ASD SALT and the EP. I took the day off work because the meeting was in the middle of the day. We arrived at school and she said that the EP wasnt there but we could see the SALT, she then disappeared.

We spoke to the SALT and then waited for her only to be told she had gone out of school with the HT!

We left and I text her to say that I would ring the EP and arrange another meeting. I rang the EP, who unsurprisingly didnt even know we were supposed to be meeting today.

I am so sick of this now, Dd3 is suffering due to her incompetence and her last set of targets didnt get worked on at all. I have spoken to the HT many, many times and to the SEN Governor but am not getting anywhere.

I was glad I rang the EP myself and she was able to answer my questions which I will start another thread about later or tomorrow.

I don't know what to do now about this flippin SENCO but she is sending me bonkers Angry

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Nennypops · 10/04/2014 18:26

Ask for the school's complaints policy and send a formal written complaint.

OneInEight · 10/04/2014 19:35

How frustrating. dh likes telling people at these meetings that whilst THEY are at work he has had to take holiday - it does make them think. I hope at least talking to the SALT was productive. Any news yet from the tribunal?

2boysnamedR · 10/04/2014 20:25

Good god that's terrible. Yes put in a formal complaint and ask to meet with her and head about they will agree to in the future ie can we expect you to do x when you say you have? If you don't I'm complaining to the level about the governers.

Not what you on top of everything else. At least it proves they can't meet needs. Email them and say " just to say I'm disappointed I missed a day off work to meet with ed phy who was not informed of the meeting and you was not on school premises etc " send it off as evidence they can't meet needs

Ineedmorepatience · 10/04/2014 20:47

Thanks all, I am glad I am not just being stroppy!!

I will definitely be sending an email and cc'ing the HT in.

She is taking the mick and I have reached the end of my tolerance level.

Heard nothing yet from tribunal but not really expecting anything just yet.

The meeting with the specialist SALT was useful in as much as she helped us to design a new visual time line for Dd3's morning routine. But she told us that she will no longer be involved with Dd3 after she goes to secondary and no one is taking over so just back to a standard school based SALT.

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Handywoman · 10/04/2014 22:15

Sending a hug, Ineedmore how infuriatingly rubbish. Very flaky. I would make a formal complaint. Are school hoping you'll just fade away and give up? If they are they picked the wrong woman! More hugs.

AlarmOnSnooze · 10/04/2014 22:17

oh, that's just shocking, Ineed. Sorry you are having to deal with this.

I would definitely take it further - treating you like this is just beyond the pale.

sorry, no useful words of advice, just wanted to let you know you're not alone in finding it unacceptable.

Ineedmorepatience · 11/04/2014 15:23

Thanks for your hugs handy and you are right they have definitely picked on the wrong woman Grin

I am not going to let this go this time and am going to start putting my email together now.

Thanks alarm its good to not be alone Smile

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Ineedmorepatience · 11/04/2014 15:26

Oh and I started another thread about what the EP said when I phoned her.

Its a moaning thread I will try to do a link Grin

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