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wwyd - birthday party

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chocgalore · 09/04/2014 17:20

Dd (autism, not HF) is attending a MS school. she is 6 and we only received our first birthday party invitation (i.e. I have no clue what children's birthday parties usually entail - never been). the whole class is invited (hence also Dd).

I texted the parents to let them know that Dd has autism (just in case if she has a wobble - I felt better letting them know up front) and asked if it is ok for me to come along as I would not want Dd to leave at the party alone. no response. I texted again - again no response. Party is tomorrow.

would you go? I am tempted to leave it.

PS: I have the correct phone number.

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MooMummyMoo · 09/04/2014 17:33

Did you ask for them to confirm if it was ok? If you did and they still didn't respond then no, if it was me, I wouldn't go/ send DD.

It's very rude of them. What a shame x

Ineedmorepatience · 09/04/2014 18:05

Where is the party choc? If it is soft play or a church hall or something similar I would just go I think.

I would probably send one more text to say looking forward to the party, see you tomorrow and then go for it!!

I think it would be a shame to miss it if it your Dds first invitation!!

Will she be sad if she doesnt go, is she on holiday from school.

Just thinking about if the other children are all on about it at school!!

If it is a house party I would probably leave it.

I do know people who never reply to texts, they seem to think that they dont need to but I do think it is bad manners.

Good luck whatever you decide Smile

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chocgalore · 09/04/2014 18:05

not sure what I ecpected - certainly not silence (twice).

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chocgalore · 09/04/2014 18:06

Dd's autism is pretty severe. she is oblivious to it all.

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chocgalore · 09/04/2014 18:08

Dd's autism is pretty severe. she is oblivious to it all.

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lougle · 09/04/2014 19:58

I'd just turn up with DD and stay, tbh. I've never left any of mine (8,6,4) at parties. At 6, around a third of parents will stay, I reckon.

autumnsmum · 09/04/2014 20:08

Personally I'd leave it the parent seems quite rude

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chocgalore · 09/04/2014 20:45

thanks all. will sleep over it and see how I feel about it tomorrow.

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minionmadness · 09/04/2014 21:20

I would go and stay... you will know pretty quickly if your dd will manage or not and you can always leave.

We recently had a party for my dts's 6th birthday in a village hall. There were 60 children and I can say with certainty (because I counted) that 45 parents stayed.

elliejjtiny · 09/04/2014 21:31

DS2 (nearly 6) has been invited to a party next week. He wants to go but I have a feeling he'll put one foot in the door and start screaming (he has sensory issues and is nervous about being knocked over as he has physical disabilities too). I'll be staying and also preparing to make a quick exit. I stayed for the only other party he was invited to and most parents stayed then too.

nonicknameseemsavailable · 09/04/2014 22:28

I would go. IME nearly all the parents stayed at parties in Reception and most in Yr1 too. I have been the parent with the child having hysterics because it is too loud/they don't like the music/they don't like the games/saying loudly 'mummy this is boring, when do we go home' etc and my children aren't autistic. I have also seen quite a lot of other children having breakdowns or refusing to join in at reception and yr1 parties (not got as far as yr2 yet so can't comment on them) so I really think you will fit in as well as everyone else does.

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