school . i want to scream and cry .

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ds2 hates school . its hard to even make him go . i have had meeting after meeting and its taken forever to even get him an iep.
i know he was diagnosed late but its still taken them 3 years.
i asked for hiim to be able to drop a subject or two , so that he will be able to focus better on fewer subjects as hes now in year 10 and year 11 is not going to work otherwise. i just know its not.
some of his teachers have asked for help as they do not know how to get him to do his work .
i have just had an email to tell me that they cant reduce his timetable as he hasnt got a statement. ive been told he wouldnt get a statement and to tbh i think they might be right . when the additional needs service observed him he was the model student time is running out.

i have been dealing with the senco recently , she said i had to go to the head about a reduced timetable . The reply that has come back has just made me want to cry as the things said show how much they just don't 'get it' and it suggests i make an appointment with yet another person , his head of learning this time to discuss a furthur support package . too many different people all the time who dont have a clue .
this support package sounds like a crock of shit , positive steps report process apparently , overseen by this head of learning . except its just an official version of whats been done here and there for the last 3 years . and ds2 goes worse with that approach .

ds2 will not do any work at home , i have given up ,as it leads to total meltdown which is why i wanted him to free up time in school to do it . The email suggests (again) that he do his work at the after school club . he will no more stay on at school as fly to the bloody moon . Going 9 until 3:30pm has proved too much . i have told the senco this . i have told everybody this. i have spent 3 years phoning in explaining he wont attend that day .
he doesnt want to learn , he hates it and they say in the email 'of course the commitment of the student is crucial to their own success'

sorry this is so rambly and crazy but i am well all rambly and crazy right now . i have had enough of all these different people making it sound like there is help and support when its all a load of crap . i may as well just let him stay at home and play xbox

Please ignore what the school says and go ahead and ask for statutory assessment with a view to a statement. If the teachers don't know how to get him to do his work, they need expert advice.

I'd strongly advise that you phone IPSEA or SOS SEN to talk through this and get some more advice about the process and the evidence you need.

Oh dear lord. What Nenny said. Your ds2's school is utterly clueless.

Poor you and ds2

I agree with nenny you need help to sort this out. Ipsea and sos sen are supposed to be really good!

Parent partnership are supposed to help but often will only go so far.

Sorry you are still struggling with this

Put in the letter of application for a statement today. It'll make the LA look at the existing provision.

Book an appointment with a local connexions advisor - 14 year olds can do the core subjects at FE colleges now. Would this be a better option than staying at a school with no interest in helping him?

Book phone appointments with IPSEA ans SOSSEN.

So sorry that your son is being failed here by his school.

Who told you he would not get a statement?. Ignore any naysayers; that sort of crap is also why your son is also in the awful position he is in now. The impact on family life is something they never think about either. It has been forcefully been brought home to you I think that you are really his best - and only - advocate here.

I can only reiterate what the other respondents have stated with regards to IPSEA (do talk to them again and book a callback appointment with them) and applying personally and now for a Statement.