Davros

[Blossomhill]

Where are you?

Haven't seen you about in ages.

She's been on tonight, answered my thread about hitting

Thanks jimjams

Here I am!! I'm finding it hard to get time to read MN and respond, only reading mostly at the moment. BUT we had a holiday!!!!!!!!!!!!
We took DD to Italy for 5 nights and DS had respite which he loved (thank god as I was feeling guilty). It was all a great success, even though we flew the day after the terrorist alert! So now I am slowly getting back in the swing.
Lovely to have a "where are you?" thread

Am pleased to hear that you've managed to have a holiday Davros. In past threads, I've been dismayed to read that you've not been able to go for years. Good for you for making it happen.I'm really unsure about what to do about hols at the moment. My mum and sister have offered to have ds for a week so that I can have a good quality break somewhere away, but it does make me feel guilty. Somehow!,I started a home programme for ds this year and - as you will know - I feel very involved in everything that happens day-to-day. Also I want to be able to take ds with me if we're going somewhere nice. Having said this, the stress involved in taking ds away, would not make for a break at all and I think I'd need to go away with lots of people to help me to make it relaxing/restful. Such a tricky one, but pleased you got to go to Italy and that it was so successful. I'm sure you've come back with a fresher head for it all.

Well Springgreens, the thing is really to do what you feel is best and manageable and don't work to anyone else's agenda. I had lots of people for years telling me how to solve the issue of not being able to go on holiday, as if I hadn't thought it all through and gone through every possibility The truth was/is that a holiday WITH DS is not a break, in fact far from it, being in a strange and potentially unsafe place! Taking someone with us was not usually the answer because, other than the hol we had 3 years ago, there was no-one we felt comfortable with to take along. Some people don't care about that and will just take anyone available whose got a pulse but that's not us. We don't have family who could/would take DS and we are not willing to have holidays/breaks apart from each other. We did get used to it, not having a full holiday is OK, but its not getting a break that is the problem. DS is 11 now and we've just started to crack the whole respite-away-from-home thing.
When we were running our home prog it just kept on going, regardless of holidays, and I was never aware of school terms etc. Having that structure at least gave some potential for free time and support to go out. I'd love to know what you decide. Maybe you should leave him with your mum/sis, don't go anywhere too inaccessible and the phone's always there. It will probably be fine and could be the first step towards taking that break!