At what point do you cause a fuss?

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Ds was assessed at 3a in July last year. According to his teacher hs targetis a level four this year but his behaviour is not allowing him to meet this target (he has ADHD). He apparently isn't motivated. He will do the work when pushed but doesn't choose to do the harder work himself. At recent consultations I was told his levels were currently 3b/3c for that subject.

This to me says he has gone backwards. Communication and relationship with the school has broken down.

Where do I go from here? Help please!

Yes and no. I know we wouldn't get one. Well I think we wouldn't. I think from the criteria on here that he wouldn't meet it? Something about being two years behind?

there is only so much you can do about how your child acts and feels in school, I don't know your child but he may not even associate the two places - my dsd with asd wouldn't get it if we punished her for something that happened at school as it's not in context. so no matter how much work with him or talking to him you do at home, you cannot sit in class with him to ensure he is doing as he is supposed to or Is motivated. my dsds biggest problem with work that isn't 100% practical is that she cannot see a point to it, she doesn't use a lot of it in things she enjoys so to her there is no point. I don't know how to change this except by playing games involving reading or maths, but even then shed rather not play if it's challenging! .
what I'm saying is the school sound like they are blaming you and your son for this and expecting you to make the changes which you can't... They have a responsibility to provide him with extra ta support if needed and to find ways to make the work interesting for him, it is not any 8 year olds fault if they can't get interested in school work. You can only offer advice on what works at home.
I would demand an urgent meeting with his teacher, any tas, the senco and even head teacher, don't say what it is about, they can't deny you this incase you have something hugely important to tell them. Then get super clued up and prepared and tell them exactly how they are failing your son, how you feel blamed and what you feel they need to do.

I have decided a while ago not to punish him for school stuff. At home he needs to be built up not shot down,. He says they don't believe him so he says stuff to get them off his back. And so on it goes as they then say he does know what he is doing etc.
he doesn't see the point in school work at all. He says he learns more at home. The teacher said he was all enthused at the start if the year but isn't now. He wanted to learn about x y z but now they have it aa's topic he isn't interested. Hat I really want to say to her is yes he was enthused as he thought he was away from his horrible old teacher and would learn more but he had realised it is just the same and the reason ge ison longer interested in x y z is because he learnt it at home so doesn't see the point of doing it again at school. I am not going to stop teaching him stuff he asks about though just to please her!
They won't give a ta as they don't want him to develop learned dependence. They want him to be more motivated and more independent. :/

Eighteen months away. Minimum. Guess the county.

We were also meant to have our ADHD follow up six months after dig biopsies meeting last month...oh yes, we are only six months after dx!!...but not heard anything. The cd are famous for not actually ever answering.....

Autism outreach in our county do not go in with out a formal dx. Ever.

Dig biopsies? Diagnosis!

Herts or Essex I reckon!

Hmm. I am saying nothing! is it that obvious?

Well if it is either there is some consolation in the fact that the Autism Outreach will be shit so you haven't lost anything there.