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My DS has had two CAMHS assessment things. They're now referring him to a specialist place (Harper House or somewhere). I've not had a copy of the referral letter yet. But of a waiting fake with CAMHS. I thought that CAMHS were assessing him but turns out they were asking a list of questions as a screener to see whether he'd be suitable for this referral. Turns out that he 'scored hoghy' abd on the phone CAMHS man who 'assessed him' tmd me (when asked) that his high score would relate to likelihood of having autism (asperges - as his communication skills are ace).
Anyway, my dilemma has been caused by two things:
A) many people (friends and family) say NOT to get him 'labelled for life'. That it'll go against him. He'll not get insurance when learning to drive, all kinds of stuff.
B) He isn't easily directed (always has his own agenda - usually extremely clever, instantaneous and more interesting than that of the 'adult in charge's'). His teacher this year is remarkably good. But I worry about future years. Reeeeeeally worry.
He was in a state school. It was horrible. Wonderful school. I used to teach there. But he was young 3.5-4.5 without a diagnosis and blasted out (shouted at until he couldn't move - sensory overload and anxiety) on numerous occasions). I reported it, they became defensive and requested a Health Visitor observe him. I welcomed this and she reported to me, off record, that I ought to find a different school as they were extremely negative with and about him, screaming his name across the room constantly, for mild antics (trying to take something out of the bin, etcetera.). I could continue.
My DH tragically lost both parents and we sent DS to a school that is fantastic for bright boys.
ANYWAY, what do I do?
I'm scared NOT to or TO reveal his diagnosis (if ever given) to his prep school. I'm afraid as they might use it against him, saying that they're not able to cadge for his needs (if he's tricky).
Hope I've not been too muddled.