School have a long history of denying DS's problems and blaming me/him/immaturity/naughtiness/TV/the moon etc etc. Turns out he had ADHD, ODD, tic disorder and hypermobility, oh, and possible dyspraxia but we are waiting on an OT appointment.
They have alwasy said there was no point trying to get a statement as it would just be refused. DS was heading quickly towards exclusion last year due to some shocking management and teacher that really didn't like him or believed in his problems. DS was diagnosed by this time btw. IN every meeting they said he was making good progress in his work despite our doubts and he was in the top half of the class. Turns out this is nonsense, he didn't make any progress for the year and I think his levels were inflated to keep us off their backs.
We pulled in Parent partnership and demanded 1-2-1 for maths and literacy as he struggles hugely with them. he is year 4.His reading levels are 1 year ahead, comprehension 2 years ahead but literacy the 2 years behind. His teacher this year is fab but put him in ability appropriate groups (close to the bottom) and he copes much better in class but the level of maths and literacy support they made noises about just doesn't occur and as the demands increase, it seems he slowly slips down the class. If any part of his routine and support structure changes - teacher not there, friends not there, his behaviour goes back to being disruptive and unable to cope well. It is a very fragile balance but I think the school (head, not class teacher) have got very complacent. They seem to think him sorted out now, not realising his needs are on-going. they don't give a toss that he is in no way achieving his potential or that as demands increase his achievements decrease. I think senior school will finish him off - the changing teachers, the size, the distracitons, the pressure.
Is there any point in applying for a statement right now? I think he needs more 1-2-1 and want his support set in stone before the pressures increase. WIthout his current level things get very bad indeed behaviourwise. With the current level he maintains academic level. With the promised level (3 maths 1-2-1 a week) he would make an improvement. I dont want anything fancy just the chance for him to fulfill his potnential.
I am angry I have let it get this late in teh day but I was waiting to hear from the EP - school were asking her. They got back to me last week she said don't' bother no chance. But they said that about diagnosis and an OT appointment. And I got those.
Sorry it is long adn sorry for typos/ Kid on lap