how can i stop dd2 hitting out?

[misdee]

she whacked someone else today. he touched her hair. she doesnt like being touched. but she has lovely hair and people love to touch it. but if they do they get hit. its like a reflec action with her. and its not just a small hit, its a big full on whack.

sounds like a sensory issue. Probably doesn't like it when people touch her or invade her personal space.

thats what i thought. i cant even hug her most days, tho she is liking sitting on my lap and did asked to have squeezey hugs yesterday.

but aside from clamping her to my side, and giving her a t-shirt that says 'do not touch, highly sensitive', what can i do?

god misdee you so badly need a dx for your dd!

what is happening at the moment with re. to getting one? is dd still being assessed?

atm ,its all stopped. i've got to chase up SALT this week, her report never arrived so i am not sure if her referral for group sessions has gone though or if we have slipped through the net. her speech is getting worse, not better. i spend a lot of the day discephering her. i even have to ask dd1 what dd2 is saying.

she starts nursery in september, and the nursery are going to keep an eye and call in the ed physch if they feel its nesscery to observe her. he comes in at least once a week, as the nursery has an enrichment group there.

so hopfully they may notice something. or she may once again thrive in the order and routine and be perfectly happy.

2 weeks ago i told dd2 we were off to the GP's. on the way i stopped to chat, this resulted in dd2 going into a mini meltdown as i wasnt going straight there then straight home. the lady asked, 'whats wrong with her?' as i was gripping onto her tioghtly to stop her making a mad dash across the road, i just replied' she wants to go to docs, i said we were going,'

i mean she is 4years old almost.

bump?

i know itsw late and you are all on the that other thread, but i have a group of peters careras coming over tomorrow, and i know its going to result in a few hits and her hiding under the sofa, or trying to, cos she doesnt actually fit under the sofa.

misdee ~ please go back to gp and ask for dd to be seen asap. You have enough on your plate and obv. need some interevention xx

i will. when i get time. actually i am in the process of changing GP's so will make this the 1st thing the new gp can deal with. without putting it all down to dh being ill.

anyone else got any suggestions?

misdee my dd sounds just the same as in sensory issues and major tantrums if things arn`t done as should be ! she is 3.5 yrs She has a statment for preschool all set up and language is severly behind but nothing is set up for vicious outbusts ! sorry i have no suggestions but will watch this thread for someone who has .

I have a dd1 with asd and the one thing I have found is to tell her and tell her and then tell her again and again what is coming up. This dosen't always prevent meltdown but helps! she was shy to begin with but is now much more comfortable and social around others. She was like yours and didn't like contact physically except on her terms so I made a point of warning her what is coming and then continually socialising her. We made about 10 trips to local shop one day and thats when I knew I'd cracked it