Please or to access all these features

SN children

Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

Strength needed

11 replies

Handywoman · 27/01/2014 20:40

This week we are on a new schedule for mornings and evenings. Everything has an allotted 'time'. There are rewards and sanctions for non compliance. The terms are well defined. The schedules are laminated and on the wall. Also on the wall is a sheet dd2 and I compiled called 'I have Autism: this means...' With a list of difficulties written in dd2's words.

dd2 has already lost screen time tomorrow due to completely ignoring several requests to get into her onesie for bed, despite being calm and relaxed ( telling me about 'the time Grandad broke the door handle). She also had warnings. Am fine with this and expected it: am just setting out the boundaries. There is also a social story above each schedule explaining why mum is trying to get Nell ready on time and that rules are needed.

She brought home a really simple (really simple) book to read. But refused to read it with me so I Insisted she goes to sleep and told her that 8:30 pm is sleep time as per the schedule.

This is my plan to bring order, reduce meltdowns over tricky transitions. ( particularly from screen time ) and develop her self-care skills.

I feel like a mum attempting controlled crying with an 18 month old.

Someone please honk in my direction!!!!!!!

OP posts:
StarlightMcKingsThree · 27/01/2014 21:01

Aw, poor you. It will be absolutely worth it. In a few weeks you'll have everything so under control you'll forget about the meltdown world you used to live in.

AgnesDiPesto · 27/01/2014 21:09

Yes stick with it. We had recent struggles over iPad volume it took 4 days tantrums and removing it and ever since turns volume down first time. It is a case of being strong enough to see it through. (I can't claim credit dh toughed it out)

Handywoman · 27/01/2014 21:10

Star you are lovely. Thank you so much Smile that's exactly what I needed to hear.

She normally digs her heels in creating big standoffs but you know what.... She's taken herself off to bed and is sound asleep!!!!!!

Am. Totally. Amazed. Day one is done!

OP posts:
Handywoman · 27/01/2014 21:14

I feel able to see everything through because everything is written and the rules state 'if I don't understand why the rules are needed I need to look at 'I have Autism' particularly point 5 and 13'

Vive la revolution!

OP posts:
Ineedmorepatience · 27/01/2014 21:21

Using visuals with Dd3 was literally life changing, she went from being totally reliant on me but demand aviodant so constantly kicking off to being able to get herself ready for school, get herself showered and understanding when enough is enough!!

It was so worth the effort and for us really didnt take long because she actually likes to be able to be independent.

Good luck, stay strong and am honking for you Smile

zzzzz · 27/01/2014 21:25

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Handywoman · 27/01/2014 21:26
Smile
OP posts:
PolterGoose · 27/01/2014 21:43

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ouryve · 27/01/2014 21:47

Good luck! One day at a time!

Handywoman · 28/01/2014 22:00

day 2... so far so good: really interesting as the new structure is bringing into focus what she finds hard particularly 1) starting to get undressed 2) massive performance anxiety/frustration about 'folding' her school top (to the extent that she said 'Mum it makes all of my body go floppy)

Plenty of diversionary tactics attempted but I stood my ground and kept drawing her attention to the written instructions asking her to read relevant sentences. She asked a few times about her progress, kept a lid on it and managed to do everything (with a distinct air of resignation, hee hee).

am going into London for drinks tomorrow evening (babysitter) am actually a bit gutted that I won't have the opportunity to reinforce the routine. Damnit...! Still, I will not be defeated....

OP posts:
Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 28/01/2014 22:16

Glad it's going well for you (so far). Sounds like a good idea.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page