I can't get my dd up in the mornings.

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"I'm too tired" "I don't want to" "go away"
we have done the obvious - going to bed earlier, (I believe she does get a good nights sleep), bribery, loss of tv time etc, discussing the morning routine the night before…..
If we are lucky, and she decides to get up, dh (and only dh) has to get her out of bed, someone be downstairs with her, someone has to make her breakfast (doesn't always happen, sometimes she goes without) and then I (not dh) have to physically get her dressed.
She is 8 1/2 yrs old.
Forcing the issue does not work as she becomes violent pretty quick.

Any suggestions?
Please?

I'm struggling to motivate ds1. I lift him out of bed but have to prompt each item getting dressed several times so I know how you feel.
I'm trying 123 magic after seeing recommendations on here. The motivating side of it doesn't work for him but does for ds2 re getting up and dressed. I don't think ds1 can help having a lack of focus and the organisation to get dressed, but I don't know if your dd is like that. This is much worse of a morning as he finds it difficult to sleep.
123 magic has strategies for challenging behaviour that are working for both of them. So that could be worth a go.

Things are not great here either (dd2 is similar in age, 8yrs 10months and has ASD). No problems waking and getting up but lots of problems with demand avoidance. I am trying to teach her to be more independent but have to ask literally 20 time for her to start getting ready. She can really struggle. I think we may go back to using the visual timetable which does cut out of lot of the auditory overload (which is too much for dd2 when anxious). I made her a visual timetable with photos of dd2 doing the required task. Velcroed the pictures to the wall. Think we may go back to this.

Is 123 magic a book?

The doing things for her works, although I know long term its not the answer, but I just can't get her out of bed. She has a "high sleeper" bed too, just to make things even harder.

polter - that sounds like a good routine you've got there.
How do you get ds to stop watching his tablet after 30 mins? Do you have other dc too? do they have tablet time also in the mornings? Not convinced even screen time will get her out of bed, but will give it a go.
thanks.

Apologies for the multiple posts. I'm not sure what is wrong with this phone tonight.

123 magic is available as a book or dvd.

DS1 has visual prompts too I always use but they seem ineffective for him.

Polter - I like the idea of your morning routine. If he was sleeping better I would try that.