Do any of you have times when you feel like you just can't keep going?

[siblingrivalry]

That's where I am at the minute.

I am a long-time member of MN and I apologise that I haven't been around on here for a long time.

Basically, DD1 has AS and various other issues. When puberty and periods have been added to the mix (she is 13) it has become unbearable.
It's not that we can't manage her behaviour, but that her moods and issues seem to be taking over every second of the day and it's exhausting.

We HE her and I work 2 days a week, when DH does the HE.
My job is draining and exhausting, I have to admit, but at the minute it is a kind of break from DD-even if it brings its' own challenges and problems.

I don't think there's much left that we can change about our lives (we try to have breaks and DH realises how shattered I am and is doing his best to help out more), so I just wanted to come on here and have a moan, if that's okay? Plus, I feel crap because atm DD1 is really irritating me and I am tired of all of her demands.That makes me feel guilty.

Usually, I cope okay, but not recently. I just wondered if everyone feels this way from time to time? As if there is no light at the end of the tunnel and every day is a huge slog?

I know that, once puberty passes, things should settle down, but in the meantime I am bloody sick!
Sorry for the rant -this board has saved my sanity many times and it seemed the right place to have a moan

Yup

Right there at the moment. Ds2(3) is being assessed for ASD. Lately things have gone from bad to worse, to diabolical. Dh has said today he's getting to the point where he wishes ds wasn't here . I'm chasing people up as of Monday for the support that was promised.

sending hugs xxx

i'm having a crappy day and feeling that too - straw that broke the camels back. Feel awful as managed to send DS2 in to screaming hysterical meltdown at football today for saying we won't go back if he doesn't join in. I think the other parents will think I was awful to him as it was in the loos. Totally full volume screaming - and all because I was crap dealing with him

Yes I do know that feeling!

You are not alone. I have a Dd with Asd who is just approaching puberty and have already dont puberty twice with 2 girls one of whom probably has AS but is undiagnosed.

My Dd3 also has seperation anxiety which I find exhausting. She is in school but tries to school refuse everyday

Try to make some time for yourself if you can. I work everyday at least part of the day and I help to run a support group which I find amazingly theraputic.

Be kind to yourself and come on here to moan whenever, there is always someone around who gets it

Definitely feel that way fairly frequently - especially when the sleep deprivation goes into overdrive. And my DCs aren't anywhere near puberty yet.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Thank you everyone

It's reassuring to know that it isn't just me, but I really am so sorry that so many of you are suffering too. Reading your posts brings it home to me how much hard work it all is and how most of what we all go through just isn't understand by people who haven't been there.

To answer your posts: I could well be hormonal, although it could be by osmosis as DD1 is exuding so many hormones

My DD2 is also having problems in school and has separation anxiety. Hence the reason why we bought a baby monitor last week and it is used in reverse, so she can hear us downstairs. Draining, isn't it?

DH is trying to give me more breaks to help. Thing is though, he is finding it just as tough lately. We are trying so hard to push through this 'challenging' period. I have sent the girls up to bed, DH is out and I am going to have a cuppa and a bag of crisps. I know how to live the high life!

I will pop back on here tomorrow, but I hope you all get the chance to relax a bit tonight.