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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

Advice needed please, don't know where to turn!

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Petal19 · 17/01/2014 11:20

Hello,my son is in year 3 . I have felt something hasn't been right since he started year 1 (and possibly before that really). He has always been behind the other children, smiled late, crawled/walked fairly late, as a baby/toddler he barely made a sound would just sit and watch everyone around him and never complain and hardly cried. Altho I was aware of these things no professional ever flagged anything up so I just carried on.

In year 2 he had become very frustrated and would come out of the class door smelling of wee as he had been half wetting himself whilst at school which was happen everyday and he was very sore. Once at home he was very frustrated trying to fight with his siblings,shouting constantly and telling us we all hate him. Sometimes he would break down and sob. When discussing these concerns with his teacher I asked if he felt my son showed any signs of dyslexia or something else that may be causing this frustration because all of his academic levels were p levels,so very behind. I was told these exact words from the teacher 'I assure you there is nothing wrong with your child you need to accept he will always be behind.'

During year 2 (at Easter) I moved him to a small village school where he immediately was getting more attention and given an IEP. Amazingly the wetting himself and all the other things disappeared and we had this lovely, happy little boy again. His academic levels are improving quite well, altho still very behind the others in his class. Suddenly building up to xmas it's all come back again. I have spoken to the school who just say well he is still improving academically. They won't acknowledge that something is wrong, he is clearly not coping. I'm just wondering what other mums would do as I can't leave him like this anymore his self esteem is so low and the fact it all went away and then came back shows there must be something causing this.

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PolterGoose · 17/01/2014 11:28

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Petal19 · 17/01/2014 12:38

Thank you, it hasn't got any better really. He has never seen a paed or OT. I have made an appointment to see a GP next week to try and get a referral to a paed.

I would like him assessed by an educational psychologist but I have been quoted £695 to have the educational assessments done and I just don't have that money and every time I approach it with the school they say he is making progress and they don't think it's necessary. I have a meeting next week to discuss his new IEP which was meant to be done after October half term and we're still waiting!

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 17/01/2014 13:37

I would certainly see the GP and ask for a referral to a developmental paediatrician asap. Do not take no for an answer.

And as for that teacher who told you that re your son in your second paragraph, well she should hang her head in shame. She was never in any position to state any such thing.

BTW the Ed Pysch cannot make any diagnosis (you need the developmental paed for that) and the ed pysch can only make recommendations re additional educational needs).

I would actually now apply for a Statement of special needs from the LEA for your son; that will also trigger the Ed P going into see your son.
Use IPSEA's website www.ipsea.org.uk to further educate your own self and also arm yourself with the SEN Code of Practice available online.

I would also chase the school re his IEP, it should be done termly and with you present.

Petal19 · 17/01/2014 19:22

Thank you everyone for your advice, i'll start looking into it and do lots of reading over the weekend!!

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