I ranted at school :(. And an IEP question

[Perchkin]

I lost the plot tonight at school pick up and ranted at DS's teacher shame - and there were other teachers and parents within ear shot. I feel awful, but I have just had enough and I have no faith or confidence left in the school. Then to my absolute shame I got cross with DS this evening too :-(. Because he doesn't listen and he never does as he is asked first (or second, third or fourth) time. And I told him off for not sitting still in assembly and for being physical with his teacher today (and with me tonight). :-(. I am so ashamed. It's not his fault I am cross and stressed and at the end of my tether (well OK he might add a little bit of weight to the last one there ).
Tomorrow's another day. But I hate myself when I get irrationally cross at DS - I find it hard to let go of it.

I have a meeting at school on Friday to discuss DS's IEP. After reading posts on this forum I realised that DS, Year 1 (ASD, SPD with extra teaching support, EP, SLT and OT since the start of reception) should probably have an IEP in place. When I enquired, I got an apology and assurances that one would be done.

So, I know nothing about IEP's and I'd like your expert advice. What should be on his IEP? ANd is there anything that should not be on there? Is it a working document? How often is it reviewed? And most importantly what input do I or should I have? Is there anything else you think I should know or that you have experience of? I'm trying to arm myself with as much information as possible.

Many thanks

Google I.E.P at www.specialeducationalneeds.co.uk and it explains the process quite well. The targets are obviously tailored according to the areas he is having difficulty and should be realistic targets that build on skills he already has so that they are achievable.
Don't feel awful about 'losing it' in school. I've been on both sides. I've lost the plot a few times at school regarding problems with my daughter and also work in a school and have been on the receiving end of stressed parents having a rant. They should understand your frustrations and that you just want what is best for your child. Good luck

I don't think there is a parent alive who hasn't lost patience with their dc and the pressures of supporting a child with additional needs is, as you know stressful and bloody hard work.
We aren't saints and no one expects you be, so don't expect it of yourself. As you say new day tomorrow

Watch this.
I actually think all teachers etc should watch it as we are not just any parent having a rant, we are overtired, stressed out parents who deserve their support.

I think 5Hundred did mean to post that link. It looks a source of yseful information thanks.

And thanks for yours Polter - 148 pages, that will keep me busy tonight!

Polter he is at a private school so I have no idea where we stand with statementing etc. Anything extra that he needs we have to pay for. ??

Thanks frizzcat & Agnes :)

That made me cry Agnes.
It's a lonely job, being the parent of a SEN child :(