I'm so confused at the moment. Ds1 has an appointment next week for an assessment for Add/ ADHD. He's 17 and in his last year in school. I've always been concerned that he has some sort of difficulty but never really been able to put my finger on what the problem is. He's been assessed by the Ed psych a couple of times but the assessments have always been deemed inconclusive, though at the time they were looking in to his problems with maths and not looking for anything further. He really is abysmal at maths but it's not through lack of effort on his part, he really just doesn't 'get' it all.
His school books are littered with comments such as 'why isn't this finished?' and 'where is the work?' and parents evenings have always included the phrase 'ds lacks focus'. Learning to read was a nightmare and he still actively avoids anything that requires a mental effort. He's so forgetful, always losing things and school has been such a struggle.
I just don't know if I'm making too much of a fuss. Is this normal behaviour? I've just put it down to him not being very academic but have I done him a huge disservice? I know it's too late to achieve anything with regards to his schooling now but I really worry about how he'll cope with life after school. He isn't planning on going to university (and I fully support that decision) so will be looking for work.
It was only a chance conversation with someone that made me realise ADD even existed. I didn't realise that it was recognised without the hyperactivity bit. When I read up on it, it was like reading ds's life story! I've just lost confidence in my own judgement. We also have ds2 who is severely autistic and I have a long term health condition myself. I'm paranoid that I'll be accused of making things up!
I'm sorry for the long ramble. I don't even know what I'm asking!!! Does anyone have experience of ADD and the diagnostic procedure? Or does this sound as if I'm over reacting? Sorry it's garbled, I'm so confused!!!