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I feel so such a bad mum sending dd to summer schemes

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Blossomhill · 26/07/2006 08:41

Dd and ds go twice a week to a nearby summer scheme. Dd is on a 4:1 and it is funded by SS.

Both children love it and although they can go from 9-5 I tend to do 11-3/4 as I think that's enough.

I beat myself up so badly for it and feel like such a bad mum.

Without it though things would be so hard though.

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misdee · 26/07/2006 08:45

do they enjoy it?

dd2 would thrive on a summer playscheme, it would give her a bit of 'routine'.

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Blossomhill · 26/07/2006 08:47

misdee - they love it. they have been going for 3 years now.

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trinityrhino · 26/07/2006 08:47

if they like it then m let go of the guilt
I just got dd1 into a free fottbasll type club thing for a couple of days and she is going to love it

misdee · 26/07/2006 08:48

if they love it, and it gives you a few hours off, then try not to feel like a bad mum.

Scoobydooooo · 26/07/2006 08:48

Don't feel bad at all, if they enjoy it you should feel good, kids loves these sort of things, they interact & play with other kids & have so much fun, if yous kids were beggin that they did not have to go & you still sent them then thats a time to feel bad, but you say they love it so feel good that they are having a fab time

maddiemostmerry · 26/07/2006 08:49

If they like it, I wouldn't worry.

FioFio · 26/07/2006 08:53

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Blossomhill · 26/07/2006 08:54

I know but I think that they are at school 5 days a week and here I am packing them off.

Also dd has got into a small asd play scheme for 2 days and again I feel bad but it's so hard to access. So next week she will be at play schemes for 3 days!

maddiemo - did you see that dd got a dx eventually!

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Twiglett · 26/07/2006 08:54

bloody hell blossom I've booked DS (5) into a week's summer scheme because he wants to do it (even though I'll be at home with DD) ... why feel bad?

Jimjams2 · 26/07/2006 08:54

god I wish we had a summer playcheme. For ds1 as well, he gets bored at home. Days like today are particularly bad as I have no help in today so - because ds3 is home as well- we are stuck in all day. A playscheme would be idea, he'd enjoy it much more than being stuck around the house.

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Blossomhill · 26/07/2006 08:57

Did you know jj that your ds2 could go and be funded?

They do do great things with them liked themed days.

I spend my whole life feeling guilty, what is the matter with me. It's not as if I am sitting on my arse and do nothing.

I tend to clean, iron, shop that kind of thing.

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FioFio · 26/07/2006 08:57

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Jimjams2 · 26/07/2006 08:58

what ds2 could go without ds1???

Ds2 goes to nursery every morning all summer, so he's happy enough.

eidsvold · 26/07/2006 08:58

if they love it - why worry... gives them a break from you, you a break from them and you then enjoy the time you have with them rather than wishing the holidays away.

Jimjams2 · 26/07/2006 08:59

ha ha dh would love ds1 to go because he rings me at 6pm says "what's for tea tonight" I say "dunno I can;t get to a shop can I it's school holidays" so he has to call in to Sainsbuiry's on the way home (then he buys something that he cooks so I'm happy )

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Bozza · 26/07/2006 09:03

Absolutely no need to feel bad about it. DS is going to a holiday club for 4 days in August even though I am already paying the CM for the hours that it will cover on 3 of the days and like twiglett it is because he wants to. His friends are going too and he gets to take a packed lunch which is a novelty because I make him have dinners at school.

Jimjams2 · 26/07/2006 09:05

ha ha- it was Mexican last night, but Pizza is a fave of his as well. The mumsnet food snobs would pass out. He can cook quite well (makes lovely risottos) when he wants to.....

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Blossomhill · 26/07/2006 09:31

jj - yep siblings get places as well.

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macwoozy · 26/07/2006 10:07

Well I send my ds to a SN's playscheme, and I don't feel guilty one bit. Just like your dd he enjoys himself there, and it gives me the opportunity to go round the supermarket on my own without having to chase him down the aisles. What could be better, your dd is at a fun place that she loves and you're able to spend some precious time on your own.

Jimjams2 · 26/07/2006 11:18

I still don't get it BH (I think its the word "playscheme" that is confusing me ) So ds2 could go whilst I had ds1 at home?

Not that I need that as ds2 can go anywhere, it's ds1 that nothing exists for....

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Blossomhill · 26/07/2006 12:04

Yes jimjams. Ds used to get the same as dd - 2 days but now they are only allowed 1 day. Am fighting my corner atm as to whether or not I can use dp's to pay for ds's day.
The reason I know you can do this is that I have a friend whose 2 older children have sn but no longer go summerschemes as too old. Her younger son (who is a friend of ds) goes and is funded.

I did email you back so when you reply I could tell you more then

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fattiemumma · 27/07/2006 01:11

DS had aplace at a summer scheme summer before last and it was amazing. he loved it and it made it a little easier with the transition between school and being at home for 6 weeks.
when he returned to school he was much calmer as he hadn't had such a huge step.

the kids like it, you get some well deserved time off to do the 3 million other things that you need to so what is there to feel guilty about?

I just wish there was something here!

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