At which point do you stop micromanaging your childs needs?

[claw2]

I have rewritten ds's statement as it is not quantified, specified and doesn't identify needs or provision to meet them.

I have rewritten ds's IEP as it is not SMART.

Although ds's CT was full of praise for my IEP rewrite ('its brilliant, im rubbish at writing them, can you come and write all my IEP's for me etc, etc) and said school would use it, it appears they are not, so I have to chase this up.

They have also told me that ds needs more external support and that it cannot wait, then gone quiet and I need to chase this up.

I have now received ds's SALT targets (written by SALT) again not SMART and they do not address ds's difficulties. (I have left this, as I feel like I am constantly offering suggestions)

So do you micromanage your child's need?

At which point does it become unbearable for all concerned?

At which point do you start to become a PITA, instead of helpful?

Do you just continue and disregard what school and other professionals might think to ensure your childs needs are met?

Lol I couldn't possibly sleep, I am on a high, im so pleased, my hard work is starting to pay off and feel like I am finally getting somewhere. The prospect of ds finally getting some support is almost reducing me to tears! If I get a phone call from OT too, I think I will fall off my chair, a blubbering wreck!

[falls off chair] email from CT, OT will be contacting me next Wednesday, she is on leave until then. I am well and truly gobsmacked!

Do you think "someone" is reading this thread? Looks like the school has made a few New Year's Resolutions for your DS!

Fingers crossed they are all as good as their word!

Wow! - you are having a good day Claw. Well done.

If this was before Christmas Towie, I would have thought Father Christmas was reading this thread as all my wishes have come true!

Bit of a boo, hiss for CAMHS as they had previously said during meeting with school last month, that they would write a supporting letter for counselling. However, when I phoned her to give her the good news and that counselling was to start 'she has been doing a bit of thinking' since the meeting (never a good sign, when she starts her sentence like that!) She wants to send out a questionnaire for ds to fill out and then make an appointment for ds/me to go there and discuss his answers before she writes letter to 'get a feel of where he is currently at'

We had all previously agreed at meeting, that questionnaire filling was pointless, as ds's mood changes in a instant and his answers would depend entirely on how he was feeling at that exact moment. Ds doesn't even know who she is, he has never met her, as she took over ds's case purely in an advisory role to myself and school.

So seems she can 'advise' me and school without 'getting a feeling for where he is currently at', but not write school a supporting letter without!

I was advised to always 'discuss' via email, so you have a record of what school have said they are doing. In my experience you can't make a school good and might be better looking at a different school. It depends how your child is managing with the school as they are. It can quickly becoming very time consuming and emotionally draining for you if you're not care full.

Excellent news, Claw!