Can school ask for me to keep dd home when there is a school trip?

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I am a bit annoyed today that on dd first day back I'm told that she won't have school on Thursday as they are going on a school trip to the pantomime and dd wouldn't sit through a 2hr panto. (I do agree she wouldn't).
I was told this a lot when she was P/T, that she couldn't go on trips and had to stay home and always complied but this has bothered me today as now she is full time and I think if the trip isn't suitable then she should get to stay in school instead. She's in a unit with around 12 DC and 4 staff. I think about 4/5 of the class are not going. Why can't one of the teachers stay behind with them?
I work and its hard to get time off at such short notice.
Dd is only 4 so 'technically' not in the compulsory school age of 5 yet.
I did express my views to the teacher and asked if she could go to school for half day or something but he said they would be gone most of day as going to Mc Donald's afterwards! Also he said as dd needs 1:1 she wouldn't be able to go and stay in school instead as they didn't have the staff.
As the rest of the school/reception class? are going I feel like DDs teachers are being taken to help supervise rest of school and dd can just 'stay at home'.
Would you be annoyed at this? AIBU?

Thanks amistill, the velvet bulldozer looks interesting, may have to read that!

Thanks for all your help x

How is it going Oso?

Maybe phone the LEA Special Needs team to 'enquire' if this is right. That way you will be highlighting to them that the 1:1 is not being used for what they are paid for and the school are excluding your dad. Or be direct and just complain to them.

Make sure you get it in writing from the school and keep a copy for your records. If nothing else this could help your case for a 1:1 to be specified in hour DDS statement.

Hi strike, I did keep dd off yesterday I haven't quite fully summoned my inner velvet bulldozer yet! but told the teacher that I wasn't happy and that I expect the school to find a suitable alternative option next time when there is another trip that is either
a) not suitable for dd or
b) provide the additional support she needs to attend

(Which is more than I would have done before not being very good at this so thanks to everybody for the support and assuring me I was right to be angry about it )

NAR4 She doesn't have a specified 1:1 at the moment but as there are a high ratio of staff to dc in the unit she does have 1:1 most of the time IYKWIM.
I have got it written down in her book that she couldn't attend due to needing 1:1 so I'm hoping it will help with the statement.

Oso, that is just awful. On the plus side, definitely a good opportunity to gather evidence for the statement. I'd'ask the teacher to confirm in writing why they couldn't accommadate your DD's'attendance on the trip.
For comparison, my DD was was at main stream playgroup last year. We had commenced the SA process, but at that stage she had no official support, let alone extra funding.But the pre school was fantastic and she was included in everything; annual trip, nativity, sports day etc.
Sounds like the next few months will be an opportunity to build up your statement evidence; keep a record of everything

Thanks marchduck, dd has been excluded from all of those things in the last year (trips, nativity & sports day) but because 'she was only part time' (she was pt for ages) and she is supposed to be in a specialised unit! That's why it annoyed me this time as I waitied patiently until she was full time and they still did it!
Well done to your dd playgroup they sound great

This sounds dreadful to me, who do they think they are to treat a child in this manner, you have been so patient I know I wouldn't have managed to curb my anger.

Put what you "told" the teacher down in a "just to clarify our convo" email to the head of the school/senco/person in charge of unit. Request acknowledgment of receipt of email and could you have a meeting to discuss the way forward on future trips.

words can and do get denied. Have a feeling a paper trail is a good collection to start :)