DS has ADHD, ODD, hyper mobility, probable dyspraxia and multiple tic disorder. He is just 9.
It has been a long battle to get support at school but it is better now and he is finally making some progress. However home life continues to be very challenging. His default emotion for ANY stress, change or anxiety is anger. We have started reading 'the explosive child' but not finished it. It describes DS perfectly. He is so unable to deal with frustration.
My question is this: do I punish violence during a meltdown? DS had a spectacular one today and flicked socks in my face and then punched me in the back. I did not respond as I know it inflames him but when he punched me I calmly said "you have lost minecraft for tomorrow. Violence towards me is not tolerated". He is getting big and we felt as it is usually aimed at me we needed a no tolerance rule however is this against the explosive child method and should I just ignore? That feels wrong but I don't think the sanctions and consequences are making the slightest bit of difference.
Help! The holidays are proving very unhappy! We are beginning to consider medication for him but I don't know if that actually makes any difference to the levels of anger.