The Explosive Child…….

[sunnyweatherplease]

I just wanted to say this book has really helped. DD stubborn, and explosive amongst other things. Implementing the tactics described here have reduced the amount of violent rages.

We are awaiting a CAMHS referral fro rages, sensory, stubbornness, hyperactivity, aspergers(?) stuff.

Don't know what happened to the thread title!!!! Just meant to write The Explosive Child……

Anyway, also wanted to ask how to get ringworm and eczema cream onto a child that doesn't want it on.

Thanks

Sorry can't help with the cream problem but totally agree about the Explosive Child!

I can only do cream at night when he's asleep and also do daily oilatum baths. Try to put emulsifying ointment on in bath too.

We struggle with Eczema cream too, bathing etc. If we put it on when DD is unwilling she rolls around on things until it's all off. So it's lots of patience and encouragement. I haven't found the magic wand for that one yet! The only time DD will willingly allow us to tend to her Eczema is when she has picked it to the point of bleeding.

sparkle - bleeding is where we are at now. :(
She still won't have any on. She wakes up at night if I try then.

When DD bleeds we creamed bandage to stop her picking but by then she is usually in so much pain that she relents. I really don't know what else to suggest to help you… it's so upsetting to see them like this, isn't it?

My DD has Aspergers so we find that applying the 'what's in it for DD' thinking usually works if we can find something she would be willing to shift focus to. Would that work for your DD?

Do you mean bribery?! haven't found a big enough carrot yet.
the creamed bandages might work though. The cream stings her though so she might just pull them off (DD age 8 ) but def worth a try.
I will be so interested to hear what the CAMHS people make of her, it will be 9 months from our GP's "urgent" referral to CAHMS before our appointment in late March. Hey Ho.

I know this is going to sound really unlikely but… we also use “Explosive Child” with DS. And when DS was about 4 he had to take some foul-tasting antibiotics. I tried everything to get him to take them but the longer it went on the worse the struggle got. Then my DH suggested talking to him. I didn’t think it would work but nothing to lose. DH sat with DS during his bath - a time when DS is very calm and relaxed - and very calmly explained to him exactly what he medicine was for and why he needed to take it. And – to my complete surprise – afterwards DS came to me and said “I take my medicine now”. And he carried on taking it, too, for the full course. I think the fact that he understood and felt it was his decision somehow made it better for him.

No promises but could it be worth a try?

I think I will have a look at "Explosive Child". Certainly no harm in reading it!

Sunnyweatherplease I pop a gauze on the worse affected area with cream (stops the bandage sticking to the worst affected skin) then just cream between the rest and the bandage.

I have finally got round to getting 'The Explosive Child' on my kindle. I've only read the first couple of chapters but I am 'hooked' already - what Ross Greene says makes sense!

I know Poltergoose/Polterturkey always recommends it, though I put off buying it because no one outside the immediate family would see DD as 'explosive'. She has ASD and selective mutism and at school and outside the home she is usually mute and withdraws from social interaction. But at home we have the explosive behaviour and changes to routine over Christmas have really escalated it!

I was really interested to read that Ross Greene says that the methods in his book apply equally to the 'implosive child' who withdraws - and that the reasons for withdrawing are the same as those that cause a child to explode; low frustration tolerance and an inability to respond flexibly. Makes sense to me how my DD acts so differently at home and outside it - yet both the behaviours come from the same difficulties.

So now I am hopeful that reading the book will give me strategies that will deal with the 'explosive' and the 'withdrawn' behaviour - two for the price of one!

I don't know how I post a direct link to a pdf on a summary of 'The Explosive Child' 's approach, but on this thread Poltergoose's first post has the link.

pannetone - yes I had it on my kindle, but unfortunately, dd "hid" my kindle during an outburst and it hasn't been seen for 4 months now. :(

I think it's like every book in that you read the advice, then think how you can best implement the gist of the advice into your everyday circumstances. It has really helped me deal with dd.

Certainly, the empathy giving is enough to knock the edge off the outburst to start with.

I don't know exactly what we're dealing with with dd, but Greene's theory's do seem to make sense where other books don't seem to understand the intensity and speed of the rages. Also, having this break from the anger has helped dd realise there IS another way. However, she is very dependent upon me being around to help her cope without an outburst, but it is a massive step forward - especially in the holidays. When school starts again though with early mornings……I don't know…..

DS1 has to have cream on his legs regularly due to eczema. He seems to be much more cooperative when he is allowed to help rub it on. There are sometimes days where he's just not cooperative at all though.