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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

Just to be clear, I'm not a solicitor and I don't want you to spend money on legal advice when you could get it free.

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lougle · 17/12/2013 09:05

Just so you know.

Thanks

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 09:45

What's going on Lougle?

lougle · 17/12/2013 09:54

I had a rather nasty PM accusing me of being a solicitor who wants to stop parents of disabled children helping other parents. I just thought I'd clarify that I'm no such person.

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 10:01

I'm sorry. That's not on at all.

I'm assuming they're not regular (though still unacceptable).

Are you prepared to name and shame?

StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 10:02

And FWIW your posts and challenge are extraordinarily helpful to parents attempting to advocate for their children with or without additional services from a solicitor.

lougle · 17/12/2013 10:08

No need to name and shame - just surprised that anyone could think that I would be against parents supporting each other.

Thank you for that, Star. This is a community, isn't it? We all do our bit.

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senmerrygoround · 17/12/2013 10:10

Shock Whoever it was must be new to this board, and even then it is wrong.

From what I've seen you've always taken the time, which is probably in short supply like all of us, to post and be helpful.

TOWIELA · 17/12/2013 10:14

Shock Sorry you've had this PM.

Yes this is most definitely a community with everyone having their own opinion - that's what makes it so helpful

MariaNoMoreLurking · 17/12/2013 10:15

I'm very glad you aren't a solicitor Wink, because the advice you've given me for free is far, far superior to that of most highly-paid 'experts'

StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 10:17

Perhaps this is a 'sign' that you should become a solicitor Grin

PolterGoose · 17/12/2013 10:17

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 10:18

Goodness. If I'd given you the money I'd given my solicitor I know I would have received a much better service. If I'd given you a quarter even.

claw2 · 17/12/2013 10:18

What a strange thing to pm someone!

FWIW ive always found your FREE advice very helpful!

MariaNoMoreLurking · 17/12/2013 10:18

ah, maybe someone had one Wine too many or it was mistaken identity Hmm

lougle · 17/12/2013 11:52

"Perhaps this is a 'sign' that you should become a solicitor "

IF the training was free, I would SO do that. I love legal stuff. Alas, it's not to be.

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 13:20

The IPSEA training is free I think! Wink

lougle · 17/12/2013 13:37

It is, but they want 3 mornings per week...I can't commit to that right now.
I did start but I'm a Governor at two schools, co-optee on the Select Committee for Children and Young People, member of the Independent Admissions Appeals panel for my LA, and have 3 children, one dog and 4 chickens Wink

Maybe once I've got DD2 sorted out and life's a bit quieter, though.

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Inappropriatelyemployed · 17/12/2013 13:51

That is very odd Lougle and must have been upsetting. You are such an established poster and always so helpful and supportive.

Perhaps it was a new poster who was overly sensitive about something. People can turf on this board feeling very bruised and 'cyber' chatting can be misconstrued unless you build up trust and a 'profile' for someone.

Still no excuse for PMing though. If someone has a problem, they should say so openly so it can be addressed openly too.

Very hurtful.

Ineedmorepatience · 17/12/2013 13:52

Sorry to hear somebody has been critical of you Lougle Sad

You are right we are a community and we support not criticise (sp) each other.

You sound even busy than me, I thought my life was manic Xmas Grin

ouryve · 17/12/2013 14:09

WTF? What an odd sort of PM to receive.

TheLeastAccomplishedBennetGirl · 17/12/2013 14:12

how bloody ridiculous

a quick search on your name shows you as a bona fide member anyhow

hope you're ok lougle - don't let them grind you down

and you mystery PMer..

zzzzz · 17/12/2013 14:15

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2boysnamedR · 17/12/2013 16:32

Weird. We are a community here to help where we have learnt the painful way. If I was walking this path as it was my choice I'd be slightly bonkers.

I know your just here as one of us x

StarlightMcKingsThree · 17/12/2013 16:41

I had lots of horrid PMs (usually not from the SN board though sometimes). I don't answer them (mind you I don't answer the majority of my PMs anyway). If it's horrid and I feel it needs to be answered I'll publish it on a thread first.

lougle · 17/12/2013 17:42

The thing is that we are a community and I feel there is quite an influx of 'experts' who come along and try to 'enlighten' us and 'educate' or 'advise' us, with no real intention of being part of our community.

I have no objection to anyone who comes along, joins in with threads, mentions interesting facts/techniques/knowledge they have, etc. I mean, taking Moondog as an example - she comes along, gives fabulous insight to discussions and it never feels like she's walking into the thread and saying 'righto, expert has arrived, take a seat and listen up!'

I do object to people coming along and advertising their services to parents who are at a vulnerable stage in life, especially when MNHQ themselves say 'no advertising'. If people have something useful to contribute, they can do it on the threads in question and then everyone can benefit from that knowledge and insight.

Or, they can offer to give assistance by PM.

It was only a few years ago that there was a massive hoo-har on MN because a certain (much loved) reverend dared to use her title in her name and people felt that there was a risk that she could be a hairy trucker Grin

I wonder how she is...must check.

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Handywoman · 17/12/2013 18:07

Shock Lougle that anyone could think this. I am hoping there is some misunderstanding here.