Deep Breaths. Starting on DX road. Poss ADD/ADHD/ASD

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Hello
Just wanting a MN hand to hold. Have had growing concerns about ds 7. Seemed to cope well enough up to now although always felt he was high maintenance. Feel like he's not settled into Y3. Given it 3 months but sensed he hadn't 'found his place' in class. Behaviour at home more erratic. I work at his school so cornered his teacher and highly experienced HLTA early this morning before work

Took the issue by the balls and said it seemed he wasn't settling in and was having growing concerns about underlying issues. Had a good frank chat, got a list of areas of difficulty . Then had to go straight into work myself. Lovely staff kept me bolstered as explained why I was late. Rang Dr after work, dr saying school need to refer so back to his teacher tomorrow.

Not sure what the aim of this post is really, just want to break the skin off the custard type thing and say hello

Handhold from me, keep posting on here for the odd squeeze too.

Spoke to school who said it was for me to refer but school SENCO has given me a 'school nurse referral form' which I have filled out with the areas of difficulty his teacher/TA highlighted. Just now about to drop it off at the Drs. I have a feeling this will be the way of it, backwards and forwards. We do have private health care through DH work, I'm thinking it might be an idea to get him to call and see if it would be quicker that way. Not sure how I feel about private healthcare though, seems a bit crappy to be jumping ahead of others just because of where he works. Dunno.

Sorry, forgot to say thanks for the replies

Don't feel guilty about "jumping ahead" privately if needed. It took 5 years to get DS a diagnosis out of the NHS!

Some private healthcares insurances, including mine, don't cover developmental issues, check their policy but if they do, I wouldn't feel guilty at all about using it. Good luck and keep posting.

Hi just offering a hand. My DS who is similar age has just been referred for further assessments on the ASD spectrum. I can't offer much advice on the system as it is different here, I think. But actually, the scary bit for me was speaking to the Dr for his first referral and admitting a problem, not whatever happens next. We had to wait a long time for our first assessment, so if you can pay for quicker treatment so much the better, don't feel guilty.

The first meet was just a general chat and very relaxed, DS was scared and needed hugs but seemed relieved to chat to someone about his feelings despite it being very hard for him. They also explained if it s not an ASD then they offer behavioural support. Good luck hope your wee chap gets help soon.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

I think the scariest part was admitting I had concerns to others in a way. I'm up and down at the moment, worrying about the future coupled with relief about it being out in the open, but I do realise that my lovely, funny boy is still all mine and part of a very loving and supportive family that will put him first.

My friend said something like 'if it turns out he isn't Aspie, then he's just an oddbod like you' which made me larf. so glad it's the weekend, will be happy to get away from school and just chill.