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I'm having a c section in about 8 weeks and have abut of a dilemma !
Ds is quite wound up after being at school all day and only really settles if I'm there when he gets home( he's fine me not being around any other time).so because I will be in hospital about 3 days I would like to keep him off school those days so he's easier for the people that will be watching him while I'm not there.
Now my dilemma is do I explain this to school and hope they authorise his absence or do I phone him in sick, as obviously if I ask and they won't authorise I can't then really phone him in sick !!!
He's at special school if it makes any difference and what would you do in my position please.
I should add if he goes to school while I'm in hospital he will give school a hard time as well as the people at home who will have to deal with it too .

I believe honesty is the best policy but I do know his HT is a bit grrr about attendance . He will be staying home anyway because I want it to be a happy time while I'm not there.
And I can't quite believe it's only 8 weeks left myself, but that's the advantages of not knowing your pregnant till 24 weeks . I defiantly can't say it's dragged

Tell em the truth.

A new baby is a massive upheaval anyway for him to adjust to. You aren't gonna be able to rush in at midday if he has a meltdown. You can always ask for work for him to do at home.

Being honest and upfront seems better than being shady, in case the truth comes out later as to the reason for absence anyway. I'd be nervous that it would permanently sour the relationship.

Be honest - no point in having a cloak-and-dagger affair here. He has particular needs and this is a time of upheaval which affects your whole family. Just inform them, and if they start making noises just stick your fingers in your ears and go 'Lalalalalalala'. If they are so concerned about the stats then they can go ahead and authorise his absence - job done

Good luck

Make it about Ds. HE needs this. It's not a convenient childcare thing.

I would be upfront too. You know your DS and what he needs. Congratulations on your new baby and I hope all goes well

Thanks everyone.
I will be honest with them. I don't know why I even had a wobble( just want what's best for my little man).

I agree with being honest about this, but I'm wondering about a two stage approach. You could talk to them first about how this presents a problem which is going to impact directly on them and also cause ds a lot of stress. They might even get round to suggesting it themselves, but if not you could during the course of the conversation introduce a couple of possibilities including him working at home and see how they react. If there's any chance of getting them either to suggest or support it in principle, then you're home and dry. If they say they can support him in school, ask them how and, if that's adequate, then that's fine. If not, come back later and say that just won't do it, explain why and say that for ds's sake and the school's you're keeping him home.

I would say it being special school definitely makes a difference. I know ds's school would be very supportive and say to do what I think best, I wouldn't hesitate to discuss it with them.