I have posted before about my 4 year old ds2. He has developmental delays, and very limited speech. He only says about 5 or six words himself.
We are a bilingual family - my other two children are fluent in both languages, and I speak to all the children only in English, while their father speaks to them only in Greek.
The words that ds2 uses himself are the same ones in either language, with the exception of "apple", which he only says in English, but which he clearly recognises and responds to in Greek.
In fact, in general, he responds to roughly the same vocabulary in either language, and he shows that he understands both languages - albeit in a limited way, and generally simple instructions
Despite this, I have been told my every professional that we have dealt with so far that I have to stop speaking to him in English, that I am making his life difficult and causing him trouble for no good reason.
Today we had an appointment with the speech therapist. She told me that I was making his SN worse by using two languages, and that he would never really learn to speak as long as I continued, and that I was deliberately confusing him and harming his chances at development.
I already have a bit of a reputation as an obstinate mum, as I have disagreed with a lot of things that the professionals have said, right from the start. (And time has shown that I was right to disagree, but that's another story!) It feels like a constant battle sometimes.
But to be told that I am deliberately harming his development, and to have her ask why I don't want to help my son is not easy to deal with.
Is there anyone else with stories of bilingualism and SN? Positive stories? I need some reassurance!