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Can someone clarify what stimming is please?

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bananananacoconuts · 03/12/2013 23:13

After 2 years of trying Ds age 7 has been referred to FAST (family action support team incase it's an area thing!). I have an appointment in a few weeks. I am armed with a diary of behaviours and list of let's say quirks that concern me.
Just one thing that i need to get my head around before the appointment.
I think ds has stims. These have usually lasted no more than 3-4 months. We've had severe hand washing (skin literally fell off), throat clearing 1 month, shoulder dislocating 4 months, spelling out words to decide whether they're good or bad (even number of letters = bad, odd number = good) 3 months, sniff luckily 1month!, latest one is sucking his clothes which started 2 weeks ago. He said he hates being wet but can't make himself stop.
Do these sound like stims? Is a stim basically something that soothes? Is it a stim if he feels like he has to do it or else he feels fizzy like he might explode?
So much i don't understand! TIA!

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PJ67 · 04/12/2013 00:28

Hi. These behaviours sound like tics to me and it's possible that some are OCD type problems which can be related. I don't really know anything about Stims however but hopefully someone will be able to give you more information.

bananananacoconuts · 04/12/2013 07:32

Thanks pj67. So are tics involuntary and stims voluntary? He can stop himself although that's when he gets the fizzy feeling

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HECTheHeraldAngelsSing · 04/12/2013 07:54

They certainly sound like compulsive behaviours to me. Whether they are stims, or ocd or whathaveyou, I don't know. Just going from my own experience of stims, they mostly sound to me more like compulsions than the repetitive self stimulating/soothing behaviour of stims, although the repetitive throat clearing might be.

My eldest used to stim badly and still does when stressed. He used to wiggle his fingers in front of his face, slap his face and make the windows log off noise Grin among other things. Nowadays, he fiddles his fingers and nods a lot, nothing that screams 'stimming', mostly you'd think he was just a faffer. Grin

My youngest son has all manner of stims, tics and compulsive behaviours. From verbal (delayed echolalia such as repeating adverts or phrases, compulsive swearing - that one's embarrassing!) to facial (he blinks, rolls his eyes and grimaces) to general noises (coughs, wheeps, beeps, etc) to physical (hand flapping, body twisting, etc) atm as I type he is pulling faces and saying nine nine nine nine nine Grin. I think he just loves doing it! I really do.

I have read that stimming is a choice but that doesn't match my observation of their experience. None of it appears voluntary in so far as they sit there and decide "I am going to stim now, what stims shall I choose? ok I choose to blink, I am going to blink now". imo anyway. My observation of them is that they don't even realise they're doing it, and when they do, they need to because it helps or soothes them in some way. They do it more in noisy environments and it all increases the more stressed they are. Trying to stop themselves when they feel the need to stim is extremely stressful for them.

Whether this makes them technically tics or compulsions, I don't know, but stimming is repetitive soothing behaviours.

mrsbaffled · 04/12/2013 08:56

I agree this sounds more like tics / OCD behaviour. X

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