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jenk1 · 16/07/2006 14:10

I am absolutely disgusted with DS school.

This morning DS came runnin in with a photograph of his class that his friend had given him.

It was meant for DS and had his name on the back and they had asked his friends mum to pass it on.

Its a photo of DS class, Head Teacher, Teacher and class room assistants and pupils all of whom DS has been with in the same class since reception and he is now 9.

The reason im disgusted?

DS is not on the photo and we were never asked to bring him in to have it done and on the last day of term there was a big party for the whole school, pupils and parents and siblings as it is closing down and DS was not invited.

"why am i not on the photo mum and why wasnt i invited to the party?"

Why could they have not told us about the party on Thursday when we had the meeting with them?
They know that 6 boys from DS class live on our street and Ds plays out with them and all they were talking about last night was the party.

How can they treat DS in this way?
Its not his fault he hasnt been in school.

Im very very angry

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reiver · 16/07/2006 15:12

It's bad enough not inviting him to the party and to the photo session but I'm gobsmacked that they could then be so insensitive as to send you a copy of the photo! Whatever the politics of the situation how can they be so unkind/unfair to a child?
I'm not surprised you are angry .....think that's putting it mildly,jenk. The sooner you get him sorted at that new school the better.

Piffle · 16/07/2006 15:16

the shower of bastards
I'd be so riled!
That is terrible, they should explain to ds why...
I am so sad for him jenk

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jenk1 · 17/07/2006 09:02

Thanks for your messages, yesterday the more i thought about it the angrier i got.

It has been done deliberately as the Head teacher is off now to pastures new, and why not give me the photo on Thursday?

I feel sorry for DS because he likes his friends from his school, im taking him out in a bit when his tutors gone and im going to spoil him with his dinner wherever he wants and a comic and let him loose in the pound shop

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schnapps · 17/07/2006 09:25

Sorry jenk1, I'm not familiar with your situation. Why was your son not at school? Does he attend part-time?

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jenk1 · 17/07/2006 20:31

Hi schnapps, DS has been out of school since Nov last year, this is due to a combination of him being bullied which has brought on severe anxiety and panic attacks, soiling himself, self harming you name it and he also has Asperger Syndrome and possible Dyspraxia.

So we took him out of school, got a letter from our GP backing us up and have been fighting with the LEA to asess him and statement him ever since.
First of all they said that because they didnt see this behaviour that they couldnt do anything and was i sure that i wasnt seeing things that werent there
Then when we produced medical evidence from CAMHS and had him privately asessed they are now saying that because we removed him from school they cant asess him which isnt true as they can asess in the home, to make matters worse they are still nit-picking over the medical letters from CAMHS, they are just a bunch of unless twits. And then they send DS a picture of his class mates minus him as they couldnt be bothered to pick up the phone and ask did he want his picture taken.

Phew, Bet you wish you,d never asked!!!

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schnapps · 17/07/2006 21:12

Oh, I see.

I'm just trying to see the situation from the point of view of the school. If your son hasn't attended since november then presumably he isn't on the class register? which means that officially he isn't a member of the class, in which case it might not have occured to them to invite your son along to have the photo, and maybe they gave your son a photo of the rest of his classmates as a kind gesture (I assume you didn't have to pay for it) so that in years to come he can remember his school mates (that's what I see class photos as being for anyway, to remember old friends).

I'm not saying this is actually the case, just thinking outload and offering a possible different perspective. Just tell me to shut up if I'm not helping

fattiemumma · 17/07/2006 21:19

i can see what Schnapps is saying but it still think thi si so out of order.

if they had taken your DS off the register then why would they send him a picture. i find that the most horrid thing of all...talk about rubbing salt into a wound!

i would be so angry in your shoes.

MABS · 17/07/2006 21:29

I'd be very angry too really

(Fattiemumma - you ok? we were sorry you didn't get to the meet ystday.)

SlightlyFamiliarPeachyClair · 17/07/2006 22:03

Oh FGS your poor little lad

so for you

better that placed be closed down frankly

Our new Ed Psych turned round the other day and said 'yeah loads of AS kids don't show at school'- I thought wow, I could think of an entire LEA could do with you LOL!

fattiemumma · 17/07/2006 22:41

i was in court on friday and it didn't go very well....wont hijack so will just say...i havent felt too sociable all weekend. tbh i had completly forgotten it was this week. quite gutted as i was really looking forward to it.

will post about court...just as soon as i figure out where to put it.

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jenk1 · 18/07/2006 08:40

thanks for your concern schnapps , DS is still registered at the school, we didnt de-register him, he has home tuition provided by the LEA.

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Pixiefish · 18/07/2006 08:52

I teach secondary and have to admit that we wouldn't have contacted you for your son to come in (I guess it's different in primary perhaps) for his photo

Regarding sending the picture home then maybe they were sending a picture to everyone in the school and the etacher thought she was being nice in giving your ds a photo to remmeber his classmates.

I'm sorry it upset you and your ds and perhaps they should have thought a bit more and a quick phone call wouldn't have been much trouble

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jenk1 · 18/07/2006 17:57

Thanks pixiefish for the viewpoint
Maybe im being over sensitive, its just DS reaction when he got the picture "but thats my class im joining them back in Sep", i dont know, i suppose it doesnt matter now.

Have had another dispute with the LEA this afternoon, i cant be bothered any more and am only going to speak to them through Parent Partnership.

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Pixiefish · 18/07/2006 18:54

i have every sympathy for you jenk and thought hard before posting the last post but was just trying to say that the school was verey thoughtless but probably didn't do it intentionally.

knowing he's going back in september then i might have thought it would be a good idea to start integrating him with things like this.

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jenk1 · 18/07/2006 20:07

No, your post was good, it helps to see the point of view from someone who is used to situations like this.

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Pixiefish · 18/07/2006 22:26

was soooo worried as i know you have so much on your plate xx

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