advice needed about a special service for boy who died

[2shoes]

dd is 11 and goes to a sn school. a little boy died a few weeks ago. not a close friend but someone she knew.
the school are having a special service(second one) with his parents there. dd doesn't give me a straight answer as to whether she wants to go(she has a choice)
I am not to sure what to do. it is so hard for her a couple of years ago her friend died (he was 9) so I think it is too much.
I know this is not the best place to put this but I don't want to get all emotional as I am trying to keep a distance iynwim as it is so hard

Maybe she's not giving you a straight answer because she doesn't really want to go or face up to what's happened? You probably know to trust your instincts, thinking it might be too much for her

I agree with charleypops. I think you need to go with your instincts on this one. It must be incredibly tough for a child to lose 2 friends by the age of 11.

not just 2 another girl died who goes to her respit place. thought i was being so clever didn't tell her.(people leave move ect) then she was taken to a special service
this is the 5th child since she has been at the school(one she didn't know)