<bangs head against wall> DS and his "routines"

[BarfaStewart]

DS is newly diagnosed with ASD, he has always been quite picky about certain things, hates changes to plans/routines and is horrendously badly behaved when over-tired (although the last is applicable to all kids)

My DB and SIL have an 8wo DD, I've met her, DS hasn't. Everytime I've tried to arrange something, they've pulled out at the last minute. Fair enough, new parents etc, and I know that she's not sleeping at all.

Today we are finally getting to see them, at 6.30. DS goes to bed at 7.30. Any later and it'll wreck the rest of the week, he'll be a nightmare at home and in school. So, I asked them if we could come over at 5ish instead, we would stay for maybe an hour and a half, then be home in time for DS's bedtime.

I've just had a fairly arsey text saying that she feeds from 4.30-5 so it has to be 6.30. So, that's it. 6.30, so that DS finally gets to see his cousin, and we either stay for half an hour or he stays up late and is demonic for the week.

Please tell me that it'll be ok...

Am a bit confused why so strict with timings? Is she GinaFording? Anyway, it's a moot point, good luck

Thanks, I'm aware of the irony in me moaning about my DSs routine being buggered for someone elses

We actually had a good time, he got a bit upset when she cried, but he handled it brilliantly.

She's not GFing, I don't really get the rigidity either. I know that her night feeds are all over the place though, and SIL is feeding on demand. Although I'm not bothered by bfing, neither is DS, so we could have been there while she fed.