Remember I have two boys with asd so have heard it all over the years but what happened last week has knocked me for 6 in relation to my daughter.
She's 10 a normal girl who causes no issues and very compliant and well behaved at school. There was things bubbling for a few years and about 6 months ago just as the tribunal for her brother reached its head she had a mini breakdown over school. We moved her to a tiny school with 20 kids in.mteacher instantly raised the issue if dyslexia. School out in loads of support but 6 months later no improvement so we took her for a private assessment which dx her as dyslexic and about 4 years behind and 2 NC centile for reading etc so she quite affected.
Anyway as she's year 5 started to think about secondary and whether we should consider the statementing route. We are currently paying a dyslexia teacher to go into school an hour a week.
Nearest secondary is an academy - she was in the feeder school before we moved her. Feeder school used to be a lovely primary but now very very corporate grown rapidly. I went to an open evening to see the senco - she is the academies head wife and rumour has it not a teacher. Anyway she made it clear with no statement she wil get nothing no support nothing. And if she wasn't at level NC 3 they may not accept her.
I then made an appointment to see the real senco the one who is a qualified teacher who I met this week. The meeting was so bad I came out and cried my eyes out. She made it clear that if I get a statement and get dyslexia specialist teaching in it they will refuse her as they have no such provision. If she has no statement the she will be in a class of 31 kids with no help whatsoever. The teacher is expected to teach to all levels of need. They have a DSP but without an enchanced statement she has no access to it whatsoever so basically I'm screwed if I do get her statemented as they will refuse her and without one she will struggle as 4 years behind. I feel they said this deliberately for me to not send her there as the school only wants the most academic able kids. It was then suggested I look at other schools.
I'm gutted as this is her local school. I see the kids walking to the school every day but they don't want my daughter so wherever she does go will mean a 10 mile bus ride at least. The senco was the coldest woman I have ever met she would make a good employee for the LA. everyone is horrified when I tell them and suggest I complain but why on earth would I know send her to a school that doesn't want her and will make my life hell for the next 5 years as they refuse to support her. I just wanted one if my children to be able to go to their catchment school!