I'm really worried about ds starting school.

[Mummytotwox]

My ds starts school next year.

I know it's along time away but I'm worried. He's 4, but had global development delay, and is behind a year. He was being tested for autism, but myself and my husband decided to leave it a year (he was 3) and see how he developed.He has a speech delay although he can talk, it's sometimes hard to understand him, and if you ask him to repeat he gets angry.

He whines and a lot, and crys. He doesn't like people to "annoy him" and if someone winds him up like says aww is that mine dex? He screams and gets angry with them. I'm really worried he might struggle. He has came on loads since starting nursery. He is good at nursery, but him and his BFF fight a lot, and very physical.

The other day walking back from nursery he was on his scooter, he stood crying his heart out because some older boys called him a baby :.(

I really think that you should let the assessments go ahead. I strongly believe that if a child has a disability of any kind and is going to struggle, then they should be given a diagnosis if it fits. If he doesn't get a diagnosis then it will be really hard for him to get extra support in the classroom. If he does get extra support then he has a better chance of fulfilling his potential.

Please understand that I mean what I say in the kindest possible way. But some children with SEN don't just get better as they get older and it's not fair to put them into a sink or swim situation.

WRT the older boys, well they should be ignored - I have a 4 year old dd and she still seems like a baby to me

He is my baby, but he hates being called it.

I stopped the doctors appointments, at the time I was struggling with postnatal depression, and at every single Caf meeting I was told how bad I was. And some how the meetings turned around to my daughter, who is completely fine. I'm going to see the health visitor on Monday

That's awful - I'm sorry you've had that experience. Sometimes people from these agencies are like that. One 'professional' wrote some very rude things about me and basically blamed me for my child's autism. They are just ignorant. If you're worried about your son's development what you need is a referral to a developmental paediatrician.

You have to be brave. Parental concerns have to be ruled out before Dx can go ahead because it is a) sensible and b) cheaper to blame parents if they can.

Be careful not to get defensive and log every interaction, copying in relevant professional if you think they should have a record too.