Crashed to earth!

[MrsPear]

So both children born early. Ds 2 age 1 discharged on Friday. Ds1 age 4 saw his consultant today and he is now being transferred to OT for his lack of fine motor skills. I know it could be worse. But when it end? I want him to be like his little brother. But he is not. He is the additional needs child. God I feel shit for saying that. Esp. As it could have been so much worse. How can get back to being positive? I feel such a bloody failure. Oh and he is changing SLT - told to me in a voice mail.

Repeat after me: Your DS's difficulties are completely outside of your control and you are not a failure.

It seems trite, but when you're feeling bogged down, it's helpful to think of all the good things about your DS that are about him and not his brother.

My eldest boy is gifted. The middle one is sn, the baby seems to be sn. Some things I look at the eldest and think "lucky smart arse" but in his own way he is just as hard work as the other two. It's hard not to compare but I couldn't have two exactly the same. My middle son is easier work than my eldest. It's just his care from school that's the hard work