DS (Autism) being hit at school by DC (Aspergers) - what would you do?

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Hi all

My ds has been hurt quite badly on a number of occasions at school by a boy who also has a dx. The school are aware of the situation.

My ds does not know when he is being bullied and can not stand up for himself and does not stop people from hurting him.

Have any of you had dc in a similar situation? Did you do nothing and let school deal with it? Is there something I should be doing or saying to the school? The dc who is hitting/hurting is a lovely boy and is friends with my ds outside of school. The school are very supportive so I cant see that there is anything I should be doing. But am getting worried about something really bad happening to ds!

Any advice will be very welcome.

I contacted the school about this and they have said that the two dc's definitely need support with their friendship. They find it difficult to relate to each other.

The school are also going to help me with a social story to help ds be more assertive and to be able to say no to people.

It is good that the school are being so supportive.

Thank you so much for your replies Polter and zzzzz. It made me cry because you have said exactly what I have been thinking and trying to say to the school. Victim blaming! These are the words I have been looking for. Thank you !!!

Polter - what you have explained does sound exactly like the boy in ds's class. It has never seemed like bullying to me and I have often thought it could be sensory related. Ds says the boy is bothered very badly by noise in and out of the classroom but there does not seem to be any support for the boy regarding sensory things.

I have a meeting arranged with the school and I will tackle them about this, from my perspective and will use 'the phrase' to do some work for me!

I am feeling more confident now! You guys are soooo helpful!