I'm really hoping for some help as I have read so much valuable info on here in the past.
Ds has dx of hfa. Always been behind at school, clingy, hates school , social struggles at play times. Constant vists to senco since nursery knowing something was a miss (prior to knowing dx) senco dismissed said all was well Ds was fine in school and just a little shy, behind due to him being a boy and youngest in class and so on. Dx to date is private only. Nhs ADOS is feb. He also has had private educational assessments back in April. All handed to the school and discussed in length. School senco still reluctant to address any issues. Frequently reminds me that Ds levels are rising and that he is not severely below par. He was at lower part of level 1's end of year 2. With a level 2 in reading. He was referred to learning support lady when he was in year 1 but school stopped using her in year 2 and his teacher did it instead. All seemed to change end of last academic year in July. A letter was received from our county council to the school stating Ds had asd and should the school need any services they should contact them. Finally being taken seriously and Ds has some extra help at school, not on a one to one basis. Had a card system and a TA to watch over him, IEP in place manly to address the social issues and referral to ASD Salt and autism outreach, no sign yet. I took a breath of relief. However I don't trust the school as I have had to fight and fight to get the littlest things such as an IEP. Also Ds levels seem to be rising and rising and I just don't know if they are fobbing me off or not.
However Ds has always been very reluctant to go into school but last week it got so bad that he refused to leave the house it was very traumatic. It is always a struggle and a slow process getting him to school but he usually always goes in the end and on time. Last week he took a backwards step and was in bits begging me not to send him there and telling me he couldn't cope and why do I keep making him do it. He said he just needed a day to think. Bless him. In the end I have up trying to get him
In I called the school and told them the truth they were very good and the senco called me back to say leave him at home and don't mention school again to him for now and suggested a meeting Monday morning with Ds and me. Now my worry is...should I see this incident with Ds as a sign that all is not well and that I shouldn't sit back and relax and let the school get on with it and I need to push for more or should I be happy with what they are already doing and am i expecting to much, what more could they or should they do? How can I help my Ds please advise me if you can or tell me to stop being ungrateful for what we already have been offered. Thank you