Why don't they get it!!

[minionmadness]

TA wrote in home/school diary.

ds was looking for attention this morning. He was making silly noises at the table when I joined it. As soon as I said "shhhh ds, he stopped. He's not always keen when I don't listen to him read first. This is a very experienced TA.

Ironically Ds doesn't actually want any attention most of the time, he would much prefer be left to his own devices to circle the room with his Lego figures and is mostly unaware of other children around him.

Is it me! Why is this so hard to comprehend. This is going on the end of the list for our meeting next week.

Oh! I sympathise. Sometimes I think they might just as well say, 'Your DC is naughty and weird. Make him be the same as everybody else please choco.'

I am on here as a form of sitting on my hands, to stop me emailing HT and saying 'please can you stop saying WilsonJr has problems communicating socially on every report. WilsonJr has a social communication disorder so, y'know. The clue is in the title.'

Oh yes. Complaining teachers whinging about how they have to keep on at DS to focus and be more organised. I'm not in the classroom, they have been given advice from an ed psych and a diagnosis of Asperger's from the professionals at the Scottish Centre for Autism. No point them carrying on the same way as before then complaining to me when nothing changes.

If you choose to work with children - or any people, for that matter - it would help if you had the capacity to be kind.

"The capacity to be kind" - indeed! If these children were wheelchair users as the TAs/Teachers said 'he seems to be unable to run like the other children when asked to' they would look bleeding ridiculous.

But, it's perfectly ok for them to say about a child with autism, 'he doesn't listen, speaks at inappropriate times etc etc'

With DS, he has always been 'fine, we don't see the problem' until he steps out of line and then he's naughty.

Should add - it's that type of crap that has driven him out of school.

Not just me then...

Another corker, "miniminion was found in the classroom toilet playing with the water and making loud attention seeking noises, I reminded him that he was not to do this".

HE WAS STIMMING BECAUSE HE CAN'T COPE IN THE CLASSROOM!

And yes ia they wouldn't say that to a wheelchair user and I will use that analogy in my meeting next week.

TA re my DS in yr 1 - "he keeps hiding under the table. I said to him you can't do that - do you see other children doing that?"
Teacher to me re other children in class :"it is quite a scary class..."

SENCO re DS "his behaviour is appalling"
Me "what are you doing to help him"
Senco "we are going to make a note of all the things he does wrong in a special book and tell you about them"

Head teacher to me "If you feel you have lost faith in the school you can always go elsewhere"

DS now in another school, completely different approach, I was in tears at parents evening yr 3 as it was the 1st time any teacher had said anything nice about him, and he is not a "difficult" child - just doesn't concentrate, stay on task. Teachers, TAs approach now is "we'll see what we can do and what might help"