Tis the season for rediculous targets tra la la la la

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Ds personal target for this half term is
Ds not to cry when approached by child x, ds must choose either
A, make eye contact with an adult in class to show he is worried( as crying will reward child x undesirable behaviour)
B, leave the classroom with out needing a prompt( he can't physically do this as he can't reach the door handle)
Or C, ds to raise his hand and sign the stop sign to child x to show is anxiety at his presence..
Backstory is ds has been strangled 3 times, and been scratched until blood is drawn 4 times already this school year so ds is very scared of child x, but surprisingly ds has been able to control his reaction and hasn't retaliated which is very unusual.
Really annoyed that school think this is an acceptable solution and I've now for a son who is on the verge of school refusal.

I'd be mentioning safeguarding. If the child has been hurting your child and is very likely to hurt your child again, then it is not up to your child to prevent attacks, it is the staff's responsibility to ensure the child is monitored/watched/shadowed and to pre-empt.
The 3rd time that I received a phone call to say DS had been attacked by the same child, I said right, I believe we have a safeguarding issue. How are you going to stop the child attacking my DS? X

Completely barking!!!

Dont sign it, get it changed, I agree with Rinky It is their responsibility to keep your Ds safe

Exactly!
Total crap and I've already told them so.
Can't believe they thought I would sign it to be honest.

Well I suppose it is a measurable target. If your DS gets attacked, then he has not met his targets.

Stupid, stupid and a bit more stupid!!!!!

Oh. So sorry. Though Ds' school have now told me they won't give me his targets in case I work on them at home.

Strongcoffee I am incredulous... and embarrassed on your school's behalf. What the actual

So your DS has to take the responsibility, all by himself, for keeping himself safe from this boy? How terribly creative

Starlight - what on earth is their objection to you working on them at home? That they won't get all the glory because he's achieved something?

Muppets.

yeah ouryve working at home on school targets.... don'tchaknow that's cheating?

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Oops! wrong thread - sorry

Starlight I nearly choked on my lunch when I read your comment about not being allowed to work on targets at home!!

The worlds gone mad!

Apparently I'll teach to the targets then claim them mastered without Ds using the skills functionally.

Apparently I'll teach to the targets then claim them mastered without Ds using the skills functionally.

Erm, surely if he has a target of using certain skills functionally he hasn't met said target if he only knows the skill but doesn't use it?

Refusing to tell you your ds's targets is a bull excuse (probably to allow them to alter his targets and claim them met )

Not sure about your IEP's, but minirinky's and the ones we have at the school where I work, both have a section on with suggestions/ideas of what parents can do to help the child achieve their target next to the section of what activities school are going to do to help meet the target.

Had similar re DS getting a reading book to take home last year star. He ended the year still unable to read properly just as I predicted gggrrr!

With regards to social skills I've always HAD to have them for home or DS won't generalise them into as many environments as he needs to so that wouldn't work either.

I call BS on both schools here.

Agree OP totally if it's happened several times then it's a safeguarding issue, NOT a social skills target for your child. A performance review target for the other child's TA or teaching assistant is more appropriate for both kids sake. Create a paper trail before someone gets really hurt, or your child is forced to retaliate in self defence and excluded for it.