I'm a bit of a lurker on here, I've managed to use some of the great advice and take solace from some of the positive stories. As such I thought I would post about something that's helped my son.
He's 8 with severe dyslexia, among other things, and he's really been down about not being able to go to the library and enjoy the books. I've recently stumbled across www.listening-books.org.uk which is a charity set up for children and adults who can't access printed boks for a variety of reasons. It's £20 a year to download up to 2 books a week (they also offer some memberships for free for people who can't afford it). They have a good variety of fiction and non fiction (including the Harry Potter Books - which my son loves). It's really helped to increase his self confidence with books and give hime back some independence - to choose and listen to his book by himself.
I hope this might help some other people.